UGH!

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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 3:57pm
Well.....another Life Skills Class issue once again! Today Nathan apparently "offended" another student by commenting on what she was wearing. She was wearing a cheerleader outfit and Nathan made a comment about the dress code. Being the way he is, he is going to make inappropriate comments. He also was standing outside of the classroom and a bee flew toward him and he said "oh, sh$&" I have no idea why he swears at school like this, I have never heard this boy swear but for some reason he has to do it at school where he is going to get into trouble for it! He is scared to death of bees. So the teacher took him out into the hall and told him he needed to go and appoligize to the whole class for saying that word. he was crying and said he just can't do that, (he has such an issue about being embarrassed in front of the class) so he asked to take a few minutes and get himself together and she said "no, you are taking up all of my class time get in there". He refused and she told him he was being defiant and it went down hill from here. He begged her to go see his counselor but she said no. So he went about his day which was fine, but for some reason this teacher is rubbing him the wrong way. Nathan was telling me this whole story when I get a phone call from said teacher, I really was not in a good space to talk to her at the time but I listened to her go on about him and told her he has ASPERGERS!!! he is going to say innapropriate things, he doesn't mean too, blah blah blah. i'm sure you all know the speech. I started to bring up the issue about her telling the class that because of him they had to rewatch a movie, she said "we need to talk about what happened today not the other day"...UGH!!! She abruptly ended the call with me and said we will have a meeting. I'm sure she could hear the tears in my voice as I was trying to defend my child and didn't want to push the matter. To make matters worse Nathan came downstairs to find me crying hysterically and then he started crying and telling me he was sorry and that he can't help it. sometimes it just gets so overwhelming and today i'm just plain tired. thanks for listening once again and i'm sorry this is so long but it feels good to just be able to get it out.
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In reply to: momofone1020
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 7:06pm
That teacher has it out for your son. There's no question about it. She's antagonizing him.
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In reply to: momofone1020
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 7:47pm

Wow. I think the teacher's right...you certainly do need a meeting. You need a meeting immediately to put an end to her stupidity!

I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I'm even more sorry that Nathan is going through this crap.

Amy

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In reply to: momofone1020
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 7:59pm
Time to get Nathan out of this class! This teacher has not go ta clue. And she is truly look for ways to get to him. I have hear dplenty of kids his age(my kid is no exception) curse. Nathan probably hears other kids saying it so he figures it is okay. he is just getting caught.
Rina
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In reply to: momofone1020
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 8:03am

First of all that teacher needs to be beaten with a club.....sorry that's my initial pg, psycho, Irish Mammy

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In reply to: momofone1020
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 9:17am
Thanks so much for the support! We actually just moved here to North Carolina, I had done a lot of research and heard that the teachers here in this state are trained to deal with kids with autism/pdd nos, etc...it's called Project Teacch. well I'm sure they are but that doesn't include the "older" ones which this teacher is. I actually got a call from the principal later in the afternoon and I told him I wanted Nathan out of that class! I don't care if he has to take a failing grade or sit in the office during that time, I do not want him to have to deal with that again. He is doing great in his other classes. I am going to have a meeting with his whole team of teachers next week so I can give them all a heads up. It was last straw when Nathan told me the teacher actually said to him, "I'm sick of this, I don't know what to do with you"! Nice huh? The principal is now aware of everything and he assured me he will change Nathan's class to a new teacher and he was very understanding and made me feel 100% better. I think most of teachers are okay it's just the old school ones who have no clue and need the training. Maybe you and Renee should consider going on the road and do some training. how fun would that be :) Thanks again, it's nice to hear from other mom's who have the same thing in common. we're heading to the mountains for the weekend!
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In reply to: momofone1020
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 12:28pm

Positively thrilled you and Nathan are being listened to:)

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In reply to: momofone1020
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 12:44pm

(((HUGS)))

I wish the teachers and all other school personnel could just GET IT! I've been there so many times. They think you can just punish a child and that'll take care of the matter, bring it up to the parents get them to punish the kid and all will be done. sigh. I hope your meeting goes well. as for the crying and then your son getting upset, I explained it (many times) to mine that I get upset and cry because I'm frustrated with the school and the teachers. Nothing I say will get them to understand that my child is not what they're making him out to be. He understands that to some extent and he's not down on himself for me being upset.

Betsy

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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 1:23pm

I am so sorry it is happening this way. Reading your mail brings back too many bad memories. Now, do you have an IEP? If not, call for one ASAP. The teacher must understand that these kids are not malicious and to them the world is either black or white. Any body who doesn't follow the code/rules, they cannot stand it. Also, I highly recommend this book for you and Nathan to go over. Only if I can remember the name. Argh! that will another post. Also, mention it to his teacher that you do not see him use such words at home and Aperger tendency is to pick up words quickly, regardless of what the meaning is, and amazingly use it appropriately. Till today that totally amazes me.

take care,
Anandhi