Unexpectedly pregnant and FLIPPING out

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Unexpectedly pregnant and FLIPPING out
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 2:54pm

I don't even know where to begin. We had been talking about it, but weren't really on board with the idea of another child quite yet and THOUGHT we were being careful. But here we are -- due in August one week before Calvin starts preschool. I want to be excited and think positive thoughts about this, but I just keep crying and crying. Calvin needs me so much right now that a lot of the time DH kind of gets the short stick. Now I will have to divide myself again and I don't know if I'm up to it.And of course I keep envisioning another autistic child. I can't imagine a NT child. I just think how stressed out I have been since Calvin was born and began missing his milestones. Not that I don't love him to pieces, mind you, but you all know the stress I'm talking about ...
But it is what it is and all I can hope is it's the the best case scenario for everyone. Even me. Gonna go cry some more ...

Kellie

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Registered: 10-09-2004
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 3:24pm
My son was 18 months old, when I was suprisingly pregnant too! My first thought was, it will destroy him. I cried for weeks too! It will get easier and the idea will soon become more of a reality for you. You will find the time for everyone, and all in all it will work. It is hard I won't lie to you. But not a day goes by that I can't imagine my life any other way. GOOD LUCK!
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:09pm

(((((((((((((((((((((Kellie)))))))))))))))))))))

-Paula

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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 4:17pm

Hi Kellie,


First of all a ((((HUGE CYBER HUG)))) to you!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-14-2005 - 8:11pm

hi there,

i remember when matty was 8 weeks old and i found out i was 2 weeks pregnant. i was so overwhelmed at the thought of how i would be able to do it. matt was an incredibly difficult baby, very needy.

we did not plan it at that time. but sometimes "somebody" works in mysterious ways. my second son was an incredible blessing. even though both boys are affected at various levels of the spectrum, they are both good friends to each other. each child brings a different personality to the table.

chances are this child will not have AS. but even so, i think special needs kids have a way of showing moms how strong they truly are. i have had some extremely hard times with two kids, but i found a way of making the best of it, learning from it, and end up being a stronger person and loving my boys even more because of the challenges we work on.

give yourself credit, look how much you have dealt with already!! in time, you will be able to enjoy this. and hanging out here, we will all try to help. ((hugs)) valerie

~Valerie
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Wed, 12-14-2005 - 10:37pm
((((((((Kellie)))))))))))))

 


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 2:00pm

(((HUGS))))

having another child, esp one that's unplanned is so very difficult. Sometimes the thought of it is much worse than the reality! We have 5 children, a couple came at rather unexpected, unplanned times. They're all the joy of my life and I wouldn't trade any of them. But I've cried many tears over them all-- ASD, ADD and NT alike! as my grandma always said "The Lord doesn't give you more than you can handle, sometimes you just have to ask for more help!"

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

Betsy