Vacation Hell - what was I thinking!
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|Tue, 08-12-2003 - 12:09am|
We've been taking this 4 day family vacation at the beach for the past 8 years with friends of ours with kids the same ages as our two boys. We've not had too many problems with my ds 9 year Aspie, until this vacation.
Fatal mistake one - a new hotel. We outgrew the small B & B bedroom and went to a 1 bedroom condo. He flipped out and was out of sorts for the first 2 days, completely out of control, yelling and cussing up a storm. My aspie husband kept saying I don't know what's wrong he's on two meds and he should be fine (where he comes up with this is beyond me), why is he having so many meltdowns. Didn't bother to explain (because he wasn't going to understand) to him that the meds have quelled 80% of the meltdowns, which is good enough for me.
Fatal mistake two - his 5 year old brother was having a great time. My aspie's favorite whipping boy during one of his meltdowns is his brother. The hatred that pours out of his mouth is scary, but when he's done they're buddies. It's really strange.
Fatal mistake three - we went to the beach. The saltwater was "burning" his skin. The sand was stinging his skin. He was miserable and let everyone know it. Last year the sand didn't bother him that much.
Fatal mistake four - his father went on vacation with him. Don't put two Aspies with two different agendas in a small condo and 24/7 contact with each other unless you like a slow painful death.
Now my darling AS husband wants to go to Disney as a family vacation because it's not a family vacation if only 3 out of 4 go. I'm not taking the 9 year old anywhere especially since he had hourly meltdowns and was so miserable in Disney on our January 2002 visit. Mind you the 9 year old is perfectly happy to stay at home with my parents, go to school and be with his dog. The 5 year old is so happy to not have his brother around, is so pleasant,fun, grateful for a new adventure, and easy to be with (compared to my ds). Enough bad stressful vacations!
Thanks for letting me vent! I needed that after 4 days with them.