Vent and Advice about another BB

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Vent and Advice about another BB
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Thu, 04-06-2006 - 9:19pm
Ok, So I am a member of a playgroup BB from when LIzzie was born.

 


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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 1:19pm

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Edited 2/19/2008 9:33 pm ET by littleroses
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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 2:07pm

Count me in. And with me comes a pack of inner city Manhattan moms. Don't mess with us, we wear black leather jackets and sometimes say cuss words!!

OK, OK, we'll tone it down, don't want to mess too violently with rose coloured glasses when education is the goal...

Sad thing is, if the case is that this kid has very uneven splinter skills, that mom and her pals could spend a LONG time visitng De Nile until the crap really hits the fan, years from now...

Anyways, let me know if you want me and my girls, name the place and time.

Sara
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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 6:53pm

You guys know how to make me smile and feel much better!

 


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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 8:08pm

I think you did the right thing for you.

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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 9:43pm

Late to the thread, but

Tina, you were definitely right to speak up.

I just read this whole thread, and it really made me smile. Wish you guys lived in my neighborhood.

Kate

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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 9:47pm

Retail therapy....ahhhh.love that stuff!

You just let us know girl and we got your back!

I have noticed that about this board and some friends. When things came up it was nice to have someone at your back.

Renee

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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 10:00pm
Hi Tina,
Sorry jumping in late but I agree with everyone because you did do the right thing. I have been in a similar situation recently and know exactly how you feel.
Teresa
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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 10:34pm

I'm sorry, I'm just snorting over here thinking of some parents of NTs around here doing that...........


I literally laughed so hard I snorted.

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Sat, 04-08-2006 - 2:09am

Okay, time for me to chime in, now that the boys are in bed. I went over there and read that thread, and I do think you did the right thing.

In defense of those ladies over there, who think it's absurd to suggest Michael might have a problem---don't forget that *they* don't have the knowledge and experience with Aspergers and ASD's that we do. My son, David, was a lot like Michael at age 2. He had well over 300 words before he started stringing them together into sentences. He also knew shapes and colors, including Hexagons and Magenta. And he knew the difference between the Toyota logo and the Mazda logo (and about ten others). I would have just laughed if anyone suggested there was a problem. I mean, come on!

In that thread, the focus is on the language issues. Looking at that alone, imagining that I have no knowledge of AS, I would think that the doctor is insane. Really! I mean, the boy is clearly very smart. (And gorgeous, too, did you see that picture!)

We ASD veterans know the big picture a bit more, and understand that the language thing (which isn't a delay, at this point) is just a possible red flag. I have to admit, I was curious, so I read the only other post by his mom that I could see, and I couldn't help but notice that he's a dinosaur fanatic, and talks about them morning, noon, and night. That's also nothing to get concerned about by itself; in fact, I'd be really proud of my two year old child if he was so interested in something like that, wouldn't you? But that combined with an AS-like language development raises another red flag.

If it turns out that this kid has AS, then early intervention will make such a difference. I look back at David's early childhood, and there is no WAY I would have listened if someone had suggested something might be "wrong"...but in a lot of ways AS is more of a difference that a disability, and he certainly was "different". It's only a disability because we live in an NT world. I wish that I had understood, from the beginning, that the thing that makes David the fascinating, unique kid that he is, is also something that makes it so that I need to use an unconventional parenting style with him.

So, it's really tempting to go over there and say something. Like, "Hey, just for future reference, there's this thing called Asperger's. If, as he gets older, you start wondering why your kid is so *different* than other kids, and parenting books all seem to be about every kid except yours, go check out a couple of books on AS, and see what you think. If he's got it, you can learn how to tailor your parenting to help him be all that he can be." Then again, I can see how that would probably come across as super obnoxious.

It's a tough one, that's for sure.

Please don't let their reactions get you down, though. The concerns you and the two psychologists raised aren't going to make much sense to them, because they don't have the knowledge about AS that we do.

Evelyn

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Sat, 04-08-2006 - 9:06am

Evelyn,


 


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