Venting concerns about DS #2
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| Fri, 06-30-2006 - 8:27am |
I think this is mostly a vent; but I am a *little* concerned about our youngest DS, Harrison. His older bro Sam (7) was dx with AS last spring and comorbid ADHD and reading and math disabilities this spring. He had a very tough toddlerhood and preK; we all did! I see some of the early ADHD behaviors in Harrison that Sam did....bouncing around from one thing to the other, getting into every possible thing alllll the time, basically not giving me a moments rest.
Harrison (15 months) will not call out to me with "mama." It's really starting to bother me. DH was laughing it off but now he's getting concerned too. He will call out "daaaaa!" and mean me. But he says other words too now. Daaad for Daddy, Daaaaam for Sam. He says baaa for ball, recently said "ckgo" when I asked him if he wanted to see the Gecko, "teetee" for turtle and just today was pointing in the playpen saying "baaaa" so I though he wanted a ball in there. When I gave him the ball he threw it down, so I asked, "do you want the baby?" To which he replied, "baba" and was very happy when I gave it to him. He also signs bunny, all gone, more, drink, brush teeth, splish/splash for bath, makes certain noises for doggie, kitty, and tries to do horse.
I know it's common for babies to not recognize that mom is a separate person; DH had been thinking that Harrison thinks that he and I are one in the same. I'm sure that's part of it......but come on! He's trying to say Gecko, but won't say Mama!!!! He can say the sound mama, by the way....but it's not his babble of choice; I hear it very rarely.
He is more connected than Sam was at this age. He doesn't really play with toys or get fixated on tv like Sam did. If the tv is on, Sam is watching it, doesn't matter what it is......Harrison could care less. I see less anxiety, except what I would consider within the normal range.....he doesn't like big, hairy men (DH and grandpa are big hairy men. It took 6 months for him to get used to DH and he just recently started being ok when grandpa is around.) He loves furry animals; Sam is petrified of them still. He does seem to have a facination with shoes, though....especially womens; he's had that since birth. As soon as he could move he was grabbing peoples' shoes.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? I know I"m not supposed to be comparing my kids, but it's really tough not too, especially when I 'm trying to figure out if I should be concerned about this or not. Sam was talking at 12 months, saying Mama, Dada and even Orangeee (for orange juice,) Crack! for cracker...mostly words to get him what he wanted.
Chrystee


Chrystee,
If you have concerns there is no harm writing them down and talking to your prdiatrician or calling Early Intervention for an eval. It's worth doing if there are concerns, particularly if there is a family history.
I think Peter called me 'mama' at 15 months. But Peter developed fairly typically then lost all his skills around 18 months or so. He is now almost 8 and *still* can't
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I'd seek an evaluation just to put your mind at ease. It can't hurt.
Samantha
I worry about DD all the time and see may "red flags" that were similar to Jake but she is much more social and has no obsessions so I'm kind of in limbo right now about whether there is actually something more than just sensory with her. I have called and am still waiting on an appointment for her with a developmental ped. I guess it will just make me feel better knowing and finally I'll be able to relax about it all.
Paula,
Is there a connection with the Mom/Dad mix-up? Jake never does this but Ella often mixes us up but always corrects herself?
Teresa
Teresa
Teresa,
The mom/dad thing it thought to happen commonly with Spectrum kids and I believe is thought to
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Adam wouldn't call me mommy till 2 1/2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then again he has PDD, and we did know till 3 months ago. We are ending our early intervention this week, he'll be 3 next Monday. I am sad, we are moving on to preschool and I have my IEP this week.
Good luck.
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I would definitely write down all of my concerns and discuss them with the pediatrician at his next visit. I'm doing the same thing for my younger son.
((HUGS)) Good luck,
Christie