A very eye opening and Difficult school year so far

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Registered: 10-03-2003
A very eye opening and Difficult school year so far
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Thu, 12-08-2011 - 3:35pm

I have been in a state of confusion and sadness since school started this September.

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Registered: 01-07-2008

All of the behavoirs you describe are attributable to the ASD - particularly if the ADHD meds are not helping - and it sounds like you do not have a set of techniques to help your son in social and classroom situations effectively. I have sooo been there and can empathise with your frustration. In our case, we did some intensive joint work with a child psychologist who specialised in ASD. We started working on eating and emotional issues, and moved on to lots of incredibly helpful things. We got to the stage where Euan was able to (with a bit of help) write a guidance pack for his teachers - this is now used in his school and as a training aid. But it took us a long time to get there.

I would find yourself a good child spychologist - not a psychiatrist - that specialises in ASD. The textbook parenting and behavioural strategies do not work on ASD kids. You need someone to work with you and your son, so that you can then translate that work into the school and other social situations.

this will really help. but you can't do it alone.

Kirsty, mum to Euan (13, Aspergers Syndrome), Rohan (8, NT) and Maeve (6, NT)

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Registered: 10-03-2003

Thanks a lot Kristy, I will seek a child pychologist right away.

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Registered: 05-21-2006

Medication definitely helps and can make "day and night" difference in some children.

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Registered: 04-21-2009

Hi! I'm late in responding -- story of my life anymore, which I'll update about in another post -- but I agree, medication isn't a hands-down bad thing. Like anything else, educate yourself on it, read the pros/cons and consider what your needs/expectations are. We used Risperdol for two years. Two necessary years. Without it, not sure what would have happened but my son's self-injurious behaviors weren't getting any better with ANYthing else.

Good luck to you!

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