Very rough day yesterday

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Very rough day yesterday
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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 12:06pm
I had SUCH a rough day yesterday. I had to call a neighbor and talk to her a few minutes cause i had had my fill...

My husband works for an airline, and he is on call one week out of the month. if a computer, time clock, printer, network, etc goes down in an airport in one of his 6 states, he has to hop a plane(s) to go fix it. Yesterday he was called out. one minute we were talking about taking DD to the park, next he is packing a bag.

ok, fine. It isnt like any other work day.

A friend of mine that i havent talked to in many many months emailed me. In the time i answered her email, my daughter tried to flush her tigger beanie baby down the toilet. I told her no, fished out tigger, and encouraged her to color while i finished my email. My friend then came up on instant messenger, and we started talking. I then hear "flush". I go and look, and now Barbie is having fun at the beach. Again, fished out the toy, told her a stern NO! and sent her to watch a movie. Now my toilet is bubbling, and who knows what she got down there.

I told my friend my daughter was getting out of hand. Now, my friend is a teacher, who teaches "throw away" children. Her first response was "well, are you discliplining her because i have a classroom of kids that get away with murder cause their parents dont disclipine." Told her what we think is up with Aperger's/PDD and such. She said "oh, that must be hard for you". Bonus points for good response.

We continue to talk. Now i hear her slam a door. Tell my friend to hold on, my hall carpet is wet, i run into my bedroom (cause that is the door that was closed) and find her trying to FLUSH my light house piece that she got out of my china cabinet, down the toilet. I freaked. And i lost it. My china cabinet piece down the toilet??? UGH It was soaked, and she handed it to me and LAUGHED. (the other times she was in her bathroom, now she was in mine.)

I told my friend of 15 years i couldnt talk. My child was out of control and i had to tend to her. She understood. But geez, i cant even have an adult conversation with out my child climbing the walls. Just while writing this post, she had a melt down cause Blues Clues went off Nick Jr. I put in a tape, no she doesnt want a tape. Tried to put her on my bed, no, she doesnt want on my bed. SHe would rather lay on the floor and scream. I left her there to come back and write my note.

If i dont walk away from her, i get SOOOOOO frustrated. Any one else deal with this stuff??

Am off to make her breakfast and try to get her in the tub. Which is a WHOLE other story...

Thanks for letting me vent.

Helen

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-27-2003 - 6:00pm
I can understand that! The computer, showers, yard work and the phone are my problem areas. Actually the worst for these is my youngest. I stopped all these for a while the time I found Dave in the car with the keys in the ignition turned to on. He had been sitting with me in here and it took literally 2 minutes for him to get the keys and get in the car with his sister. Fortunately you have to turn off the alarm before teh car will start or he would have been down the street. Then there was teh time he taped his sister to a post in the livingroom. Then there was the time he stole a whole tin of cookie dough and made a mess under my bed.

Now I pretty much keep those activities to when they are watching a movie in the same room as me or sleeping. I have to say, for the most part the older kids are over that. They do need more supervision than other kids thier age, but it is not nearly that bad anymore. I just have bery stringent rules about staying INSIDE the house and lock up or who knows where they would be. Fortunately I have 1 "typcially developing" child who is 5. She knows when the others are doing something that would be dangerous and will always come and be the informant.

Oh yeah, I also have made my house into Fort Knox. I have latches that lock high on each exit or locks that require keys from the inside. I have food stored in places out of reach (just did that one) All dangerous and sharp objects are also locked or out of reach and soon everything dangerous will be key locked. When I had a flusher I put a hook high on the bathroom door to lock her out of it unless I opened it. Babyproofing beyond the normal has saved my sanity.

GOOD LUCK and keep your sanity.

Renee

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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 7:16pm
I am SOOO glad i came to these boards. Your stories make me smile, not because they are funny (oh but they are) but because i can RELATE. It is soooo nice to know someone else has been there.

We live in an apartment so it is harder to drill holes in walls for locks, and sorts. I have tried baby gating her but, like everything else, she has managed to learn to climb the gates. The safety bar on the sliding glass door? She watched me twice, then learned if she stood on the back of the couch, and leaned against the glass, she would be tall enough to raise the bar and get out. She is a very determined 3 year old.

But she doesnt understand "DONT TOUCH THAT!" or "How many times do i have to tell you to STOP standing on my kitchen TABLE???" or "WHY are you standing on my counter top??"

I TOTALLY have Bill Cosby in my home. I have flashes of him daily, i hear his voice in the back of my head. "Children learn to build invisible ladders to get where they need to go" "What part of NO dont you understand?" "EVERYONE stop touching everyone else!!""Why did you drink my coke when i told you not to?? i dont know!"

UGH...

Thanks for the smile. I needed it. Caitlin loves to shut doors, she loves to pull things out of closets, and she loves to pull plugs out of the walls. So, i guess we are off to the home improvement store this weekend for more safety gadgets.

Helen

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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 8:33pm
hehe. dh and I are always quoting Bill Cosby. BTW did you know his son was learning disabled. (The one killed a couple years ago) Makes you wonder if Bill understood our households more than we thought.

As for Safety gadgets, there are these little hooks that go into eye rings. THe hooks have a spring you have to pull back to get the hook off the ring. THey are a buck or 2 each and make very small holes easily repaired with wood putty. I use them on the doors and none of my 3 y.o.'s have been able to work them until they are much older (6 or 7). Then of course my kids aren't really talented in the fine motor realm. Work for cabinets too and there are all diferent sizes. I did find that if I didn't put the hook on the wall side for the doors, for some reason David was able to muscle them out of the wall. But he hasn't been able to do it the way I have it now. They are in the hardware section at home depot.

Renee

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Tue, 05-27-2003 - 9:28pm
I did know Bill Cosby had a brother who was dyslexic (sp) but i didnt know his son had a learning disability. It was a shame what happened to him. The Cosby's are wonderful people, and we enjoy his stand up alot. My mom bought Dh and I tickets to go and see him in Dallas. He was great. We still watch the Cosby Show on Nick at Night. How wonderful it must be to have 5 children who LISTEN. LOL, if all kids were that way, we would ALL have 5 kids.

We will have to take a look. Our cabinets dont have hardware, so anything we put on them will require drilling. Over all, she doesnt mess with the cabinets very much. Just toilets and doors. She LOVES slamming doors.

Thanks Renee, i will take a look this weekend.

Helen

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Wed, 05-28-2003 - 6:04pm
Oh Helen! You poor thing. I know EXACTLY how you feel. Eva has been a bug for the last few days, actually it feels like weeks. I've been trying to answer Rene's post about the IQ testing and have had to delete my response 4 times b/c Eva HAS to have my attention. Okay, so maybe it also has to do with the fact that I have a lot of stuff to say on the suject of the IQ test. LOL.

Anywho, I can really relate to the Bill Cosby thing too. DH, being an Aspie and having no natural parenting skills of his own, does his best to emulate Bill every time he gets frustrated. I can deffinately think of worse role modles. LOL. Bill is great.

Sigh, gotta go, Eva is into the sunscreen again.

Candes

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Candes