Volunteered at school today..

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Volunteered at school today..
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:30pm
I knew Mike was having a bad week at school. He pulled 2 cards yesterday and had to stay in at recess today. So I guess I shouldn't have expected to much. However, I was surprised to see my son acting like a significantly autistic child. He has a number of behavioral similarities and has had difficulties in class before but usually having to do with completing work or being impulsive. So far I have been lucky that he has never outright stimmed or acted "autistic" in school (although he will pace and do some at home). He was rocking, rolling his head around, getting up in the middle of class and walking around the room to look at things and not hearing people redirect him back to his seat. The other kids were obviously frustrated with him and treating him differently. At one point the teacher had to tell a student "You don't need to be bossy with Michael, he needs a chance to listen"

This from a kid who 6 months ago I questioned him even being on the spectrum. There has been absolutely no doubt for the past few weeks and especially not after today. I had 45 minutes scheduled to be in class, I actually finished what I was doing early and left early. Couldn't take anymore.


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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 12:41am
Oh geez, Sweety, I'm so sorry all that happened. I don't know what to say. No, really, I don't. I can so easily put myself in your shoes. Eva made a fast decline too, and most of her traits relaly come out most durring Group. She's a lot like Jade in that respect. She does well in the company of adults and siblings, but you put her in a room full of other pre-schoolers and kindergartners and she goes ballistic. She acts like she's deaf, hums and rocks, and flinches soooo much. Even in the Older Kids Group (which she now hangs out with) she tends to be 'more autistic'. But that's because she wants to be involved in what's going on (Paleontology Study) but doesn't have the attention span for it. She gets fatigued and starts stimming. Today we worked out a plan that allows her to quit when she wants to but still has interesting things to do. She can't be around kids her age, they freak her out.

I hope things get better for Mike (and for you). Make sure to keep us updated on what's going on with him.


Candes (who thinks there should be a 'box of chocolates' emoticon)

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Wed, 09-10-2003 - 2:53am
Thanks candes,

I think I can go for a whole blank blank box of chocolates right now. I am bummed I can't cuss on this board too.

Can't sleep tonight. Having one of those days where I feel like I could slip into depression. Everything going to teh pits at once.

Cait had an audition again for another play last night. (Same group as last time). If they made it they would get a call back today. No call came, but I heard from a friend that only 13 of the needed 40 auditioned so they cancelled the play and are going to do a different one instead auditioning in 2 weeks. However, her dd was already cast for the next play and won't need to audition. I guess most of the 13 already are cast. About all but my aspie. Can't even make the cut when there aren't enough. I can't even get the director to respond to my email asking about it.

Dave is out of his mind nuts this week. I actually medicated him today so my friend could watch him. (trial of ritalin left over from a couple months ago) He started school and speech this week. Yesterday picking up the kids from school he got mad at me for not letting him run all over the school grounds and away again. So he gets me in a 2 fisted hairpull in the middle of the school. Then was kicking me and trying to bite as I struggled to carry him out of there as all the kids are getting out and all the parents are staring at me.

I sure hope that Emily is doing well in school. I haven't had a chance to talk to the teacher with everything else and I have been putting it off. I figure as long as I don't ask everything is great. I am so afraid that she will have some sort of school problems too and I really don't think I could handle that right now.

Oh yeah, and we got _______ mice back in our garage again.

I need wine and chocolate. Thanks for letting me whine.


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Registered: 03-21-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 8:50am
I feel both of y'alls frustrations. I spend so much time worrying

about Tim in school that I tend to let my worry for my other two decline

and I need to spend equal worry on all of them. Lacie is 11 going on 18,

into cheerleading and band. Sean is playing flag football and his

coach keeps ditching him (didn't pick him up for the game saturday and

never called about another practice, so we sat at the practice field

for 30 minutes before deciding no one was coming)... Then

there's Tim, So far I haven't had any calls, however the bus driver

came to the door one day telling me that he was spitting on some boy.

This was the day after Tim told me that 3 boys were all spitting on

him at the same time. It's hard to fret over their academic well

being when their social well being is in dispair. Tim is in 7th grade

now, when he was in "headstart" up to 4th grade I was always at the

school volunteering or just checking in on things. He always seemed

bored with what was going on. Then in 6th, He suddenly got

real interested in history and science. (he was into science before

but it was more noticeable last year.)I wish there were more professionals

in the school system to help kids like this. Rebecca
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Registered: 06-25-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 11:56pm

I'm really, really sorry.

If I am due a good day, I will gladly give it to you. you deserve it.



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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 10:30am

I have recently read that red wine extends your life by 10 yeares and that chocolate is good for your heart. Get to it - girl!!

As for Michael in class. Gosh it is so painful when you see your kid having trouble.

But, I think the teacher's response to the other child sounded promising and understanding, and also, perhaps now the teacher sees what's really going on and you can get some services for your son. Sometimes what "looks" bad is actually a good thing.

Hang in there.


I'm sorry. I smiled about the 2 fisted hair grab with Dave. My Colin (just about same age) loves to do this and just a few days ago gave me an extremely professional right hook to the jaw!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-11-2003 - 12:04pm

A little late so I hope this finds you in a much better spirit. I'm having a real blue time myself. I've been ill and no one can figure out why. I'm hoping that there is an answer soon and that whatever it is, is mild and certainly curable (or at least it will eventually go away). Its just getting hard wondering what could make me feel like this and why can't anyone figure it out. Maybe this is how our kids feel sometimes. Well, who knows. I think I'll have a box of chocolates as well.



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Thu, 09-11-2003 - 3:30pm
Renee, hi I'm just now reading your post & I feel for you honey! I used to volunteer alot @ my dd's school but I found myself depressed when I watched Sarah wander around & not really interact with anyone in her class and not be able to stay on task. Now I only volunteer maybe 1 or 2 X during the year. I hope it goes better for Mike, maybe he was anxious that you were there. I think Sarah didn't really like when I volunteered 'cause it embarassed her for some reason? Go figure? Good Luck & take care , Mary Ann