We hate homework club - who's in?

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We hate homework club - who's in?
Mon, 11-15-2010 - 2:11pm

Oh boy. Loooooong meeting at school with new ASN teacher, ASN manager and ASD outreach worker. Some positive stuff (new laptop and accommodations over timed tests, more help with group work, ASN teacher going to help with PE and social clubs, ASD worker going to do some structured training for his classmates).

But oh oh oh we got nowhere over homework. I'm supposed to get him a folder to help keep him organised. That's IT. I went over why it takes him three times longer than everyone else. Turns out half his homework is written in his diary, half is on the school internet (which he doesn't even know how to use). How am I supposed to keep track of *that*? I asked them if it was reasonable for a 12 year old boy to be spending 2-3 hours a night on homework. They agreed it wasn't. So now we at least have them writing down in his diary how long each task is supposed to take. Grrrrrrrrrr.

I hate this *soooo* much. Every evening is a fight. We have to turn the TV off, which makes the little ones mad, because Euan can't concentrate if there is any noise in the house. I have to sit with him like a dragon keeping him on task. We have constant fights because he gets worked up about how to do stuff the right way for the teacher and I am not the teacher so how would I know??

I know that every NT kid in the world can come home, sit down with their books for 30 mins, race through a page of homework, then run off and play. Parents feel like their kid is doing extra work, getting ahead, they are helping....the school feels like it is proving it has taught the kids something, the kids learn to organise their time and work independently. I get that. But homework is none of these things for Euan, it is just an complete PITA. Every so often there'll be some topic work that he's put his heart and soul into and blow everyone away with his depth of knowledge and detail and confidence. Then he's pleased and I'm pleased and his teachers are over the moon. But most of the time it isn't like that, most of the time it is just endless fights and tears and losing things and snooty letters...

I am going to start an Anti Homework Club. Who's in?

Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT)

"My definition of housework is to sweep the room with a glance"

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 2:28pm

Can I join?! My 9 year old doesn't have PDD but has an anxiety disorder, pica, and sensory integration dysfunction. Homework is very tricky for us. He has a desk space in his room as free of distractoin as possible (though he can find distraction in a piece of lint). He has a chair that spins to allow him to move a bit while doing homework. I also let him chew gum (because with the pica he'll eat the pencil if he's not chewing gum) and that seems to help him focus. He has a snack right after school, plays for a bit, and then starts homework. He needs lots of help, it was suggested to me that he work alone for a few minuntes, and then after a certain amount of time I go in and help him. Repeating that pattern until he is done. It does help a bit. Before I would have to sit next to him and make him focus, which is tricky with a 7 year old and 5 year old running around in the house.

For oral studying he gets to sit on a large gym ball and bounce. He still gets distracted but studying is less boring for him.

His math teacher has also told me that if he is struggling on a certain area or it just takes too long (by my standards) to have Gabe do about 1/2 the problems and send him a note. So far I haven't had to do that but it's nice to know that the teacher is willing to work. His teachers also allow him to chew gum at school which has helped him greatly in school. His teacher last year wasn't terribly accomodating and was very hard to get in touch with, the team he has this year are all great and have been more than wiling to help him succeed. It's crazy how different teachers see things so differently.

Maybe see if you can work out less homework. 2-3 hours a night is way too much. I hate that kids even have homework at all. In school for 7 hours a day and then homework on top of it? If I had my way homework would be outlawed :)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 11-15-2010 - 4:31pm

I'm in.


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Tue, 11-16-2010 - 8:43am

I'm in!

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 12:06pm

I'm in too!