Weird Incident, could use some feedback
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Weird Incident, could use some feedback
| Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:11pm |
My FIL died from various cancers about 2 years ago.
| Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:11pm |
My FIL died from various cancers about 2 years ago.
Yep! it is common with my son. Keep talking to him.
My guess is that is is as it presents: A genuine reaction to grief, triggered by the sight of the bear. It probably just hit him that his pawpaw is actually permanently dead.
Yes it is a delayed reaction, but I was young (5) when my mother died, and I remember my worst grief coming when I was in 3rd and 4th grade. There may have been more stress that year, but I also think the reality of her death honestly didn't sink in for a very long time.
That's my 2¢. I may be wrong, of course.
-Paula
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My son, who is 10, remembers many more things than I think he is going to. Your son may not talk about many of those memories, but they may still be powerful for him, and his feelings for his Pawpaw were just always bigger than you knew. Remember, communication is at center of what makes world a tough place for our kids. I am always blown away by things ds does remember, but didn't talk about so much before. Now that he's older, amazing things come out of his mouth...
And also, my ds' experiences things so intensely. Someone once said of my ds that he just doesn't have "Buffers", pretty true. Sometimes grief is too much to do anything with until some time later, I know that was true for me when my own father died suddenly, and I was a grownup.
I would just offer to listen and be there for him, help him to find comfort in whatever way he can. I know for my ds, dealing with death and the possibility of being separated from his dad and I has also been a huge issue, death itself can be extra super hard to deal with, as it is for all of us.
Poor little guy, I hope he is feeling better now.
yours,
Sara
He seems to be feeling much better.
My ds (9) did almost the same thing. I found him in his room weeping uncontrollably. He said the picture of Grampy made him sad. My dad died 2.5 yrs ago. Billy was extremely close to my dad but didn't show much emotion when he died. His therapist said that this outburst was completely normal. Billy doesn't really like talking too much about my dad. He said he's afraid that once he starts crying, he'll never be able to stop. Absolutely broke my heart.
I think just comforting/consoling him and letting him talk when he needs to is a good way to help him process his grief.
Jen
Jen
Chiming in late...sorry...
But like the others have said, I think this is extremely normal (although it's horribly sad to witness) and my guess is more people deal with it than we realize.
"Anyway- I guess my reason for telling you all that is to let you know that their may be school related influences that you're unaware of."