Well, i am facing my hears head on...

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Well, i am facing my hears head on...
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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 9:31pm
Well, i took a pregnancy test today. And guess what??? It was positive. I go in the morning to the doctor for an "official" test. My husband was out of town, but i paged him with the news. He called back singing into the answering machine. So of course, he is excited. But i just saw 3 hours a day of free time go RIGHT out the window.

As much as i would love to say i am excited, i am in shock, as Catie was a fertility baby. And i am in shock because we had changed out plans to buying a house, poutting Catie in Montessori school, and possibly me going back to school. And here we are, maybe pregnant. (i am in denial if you cant tell!)

Helen

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Mon, 06-30-2003 - 10:42pm
Well, CONGRATULATIONS. As we all know, as soon as the shock wears off (and I hope sometime soon) that baby will be the light of your life. I'm sure Catie will (mostly?) enjoy being a big sister.

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 12:02am
Congrats & good luck with this pregnancy. I hope it is easier! My 2 girls are very close & have fun together. (3 1/2 yrs. apart.) Take care, MaryAnn
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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 2:32am
I just wanted to say congrats.

Things will be fine, once you get over the shock. I know all to well how you are feeling right now. My pregnancy with Madison came as a big surprise !!

Madison has brought so much to our lives, and she has taught us all so much. We have learned patience, understanding and to eveyone she mets she has taught acceptance.

The best to you and your family, sometimes the things you don't plan turn out the best.

Amy

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 2:36pm
Well, it is official. I am definately pregnant. Boy, didnt really think it would happen with out fertility. But it has. And here we are. Already taking advice on when and how i should explain this to my daughter. Obviously i dont think i should make it a big deal until my second trimester. But i would take any advice you guy want to give!!

Helen

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 5:46pm
Congrats Helen!! I bet you're about three shades of scared at this point aren't you? I know exactly how you feel. Having a baby is always a little frieghting, no matter the circumstances. And with your reproductive history and Catie's somewhat unique needs I can imagine things are even more so right now. But have no fears, things will turn out for the best.

Infact, when you first said you might be pregnant again my first thought was "The dr said more social interation and God delivers!" I personally feel there is no better social skills program than the sibling relationship. My kids have gotten so much out of having siblings that I can't even begin to imagine what they might be like if they were only children. Jade made her most significant leaps and bounds after the birth of Eva. Before that she was the classic withdrawn ASD. But having a baby sister got her to look outside herself and learn to think about others. Oh sure, being around other kids her age or younger was good for her, but the whole "MY baby sister" thing was really special for her. She didn't feel any responsibility towards other kids, but she quickly realised that 'the new baby' was going to be learning from her and her actions, both good and bad. Her older sisters have always been great with helping her understand things and learn to cope with the outside world. She felt it was her turn to do the same for someone else. She makes a great big sister and I'm sure Catie will too.

As far as how to tell her, I think your right, wait until the second trimester, or at least until you start showing. I always waited until I was showing to tell my other kids because I was afraid of how it would affect them if they got all excited about the new baby only to have me miscarry. It's hard enough on Mom and Dad to go through something like that, let alone a child. And miscarraige can happen to anyone, even the healthiest women. And as far as that's concerned I will keep you in my prayers. I hope you have a perfect pregnancey.

When I got pregnant with with my younger kids I started asking my older ones how they would feel about having another sibling. I usually got mixed reactions. They would be excited about the prospect of having one but they would also feel a little insecure about having to share Mom and Dad's time with yet another person. My younger ones looked at the idea as having a living doll to play with.

Ut oh, I gots a sick kiddo, gotta go.

Congradualations Sweety! I wish all the best for you.

Candes

Peace,
Candes