Well now, that was embarassing

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Well now, that was embarassing
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 2:48pm

Dave has been the perfect angel at school so far (been almost a month, he is really quite in new situations and a bit freaked out), but as you know can be a complete turd at home.

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 3:55pm
Oh Man!

Renee, I feel so bad for you.

I know exactly what it is like. I had to pick up little change-adversive Peter from school early a few weeks ago because he had bashed his head in the playground and he wrapped two arms around a pole and wouldn't let go, screaming all the while like I was killing him. "I stay in SCHOOL. I stay in SCHOOL."

I just know a lot of people were looking out the windows and thinking 'that poor child must have a terrible home life'.

You develop a thick skin, but OMG it is still mortifying while it is going on. Minutes last forever, and people trying to help just make the matter worse. (in my case the school psychologist tried to rescue me and terrified Siobhán -setting her off too!)

In time things will level out, I hope.

-Paula

-Paula

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 5:50pm

Oh, ewe, I hate it when that kind of stuff happens.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-09-2003 - 9:36pm

Oh man, I totally had a bad feeling this afternoon that CPS would be calling.

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Registered: 07-11-2003
Fri, 10-10-2003 - 2:32am

Oh sweety, you sound so depressed. It can get really tough being in our possitions sometimes. I wish there was something I could do for you. But being so far away all I can manage is taking my credit card for a trip to chololatebox.com.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-10-2003 - 1:09pm
I just wanted to let you know that I am going through the exact same thing you are.

My son is an angel at school. If they only realized he is being so good because

he wants no part in interacting with anyone. He's quiet because he doesn't want anyone

to notice or to pay attention to him. As soon as I pick him up from school there

is an instant change in his behaviour. I know how you feel about believing what

everyone else is thinking. That you could be the cause of his bad behaviour. But

you are not! He is the way he is. I just recently talked myself out of believing

I was the problem. It doesn't help when you have family telling you that it's your

fault he is the way he is. I get, "your not strict enough!", "give him a spank on the

bum", "give him to me, I'll straighten him out!". I just realize that I am the one with him most of the time not them. They have no idea. You are not a bad parent! Remember that! As far as the tantrums in public. Alot of times I bet people are saying," I'm glad it's not my kid this time!". And if they can't understand oh well!! I hope this helps :-)


Susan

p.s.- there are plenty of times I think the neighbours are going to call the police because he can scream bloody murder for over an hour most times. So far no-one has so far! I let my neighbours know that if they hear him screaming rest assured we're not beating him or anything!

There are 4 things you cannot recover.
1. The Stone.......after the throw.
2. The Word........after it's said.
3. The Occasion......after it's loss.
4. The Time.........after it's gone.