What am I getting myself into

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What am I getting myself into
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Thu, 05-25-2006 - 11:23pm

I wasn't busy enough. I have just agreed to take Mike to a screening for music therapy tomorrow and Cait in a week. I am HOPING to get this funded through regional centers. Otherwise forget it. Can't afford it. My chance is about 50/50 I think but if I get it, it will be another 1/2 hour drive with hour therapy 2x per week.

Plus tonight I got elected to be treasurer of our school's PTA. Ohhhhh boy.

Today is my anniversary and it wasnt all that great. Today DH wanted to know when I would be around over the next 5 days because he is on a mini-vaca. I told him my schedule at which time he said "so when do you take a break?". Finally I think he is getting it a little, maybe. Funny how I still made dinner and cleaned up all alone while he played with his new MP3 player that I got him.

Renee

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 7:41am

Renee,

It sounds like many of these initiaves coud do with a good old cost/benefit analysis. to see if the cost to you & the family (same thing) is outweighed by the benefits to you and the family. If not, drop it.

Because it sound to me like you are incurring the costs, and other people are reaping the benefits, which is fine if they are your kids -the benefit goes into the "family" bucket from whence it came, but to the "Renee" subbucket (of family) what benefits are credited?

I mean, other than satisfying your ADHD need for living life in a constant state of frenzy: What do you get out of it?

-Paula
(in tough love mode today )

-Paula

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 10:45am

OOooohhhh....can I relate to making and cleaning up your own anniversary dinner while hubbie is off doing something completely selfish......that was my mother's day.....I got up early with the kids, when hubbie finally got out of bed he did make breakfast.....his favorite breakfast and left a huge mess in the kitchen for me to clean up. He preceeded to spend the rest of the day in our room....he wasn't feeling well.....he finally got up at dinner time and wondered what i was making.....I handed him a take out menu (which I went and picked up)......Thank goodness mother's day is only one day....I don't know if I could stand being this spoiled everyday.....LOL

Good luck with the music therapy....whatever decision you make. Son is going to be in a group music therapy/social group every Thursday this summer. I am also looking into the Listening (learning??) Program. I just had a meeting with my county case worker and I am getting a little over $2000 for therapies/equipment. I finally found an OT to work with and I have a call into a hippotherapy program (the stables are very close to where we live). I also have to remember that son does his behavior therapy more aggressively during the summer.....have to keep time open for that......

Good question Renee.....why do we do this to ourselves??!!

Christie

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 11:30am

Renee,

Happy Anniversary! My B-day was May 24, pretty much the same senario. DH worked late, didn't take kids to get bday presents (I was expected to do that?!?!) and then came home tired and hungry. Then he got sidetracked by yard work and by the time he was ready have cake and do presents it was bedtime for little ones. The kids were upset that I didn't have time in my busy day to make a birthday cake (for them to eat cause I don't really even like cake) and we hurried through "Happy Birthday".

I think the music therapy sounds good but the drive doesn't sound so good. I'm w/ Paula, is the cost worth the benefit? If so, great if not whatever will you do with an extra hour and 1/2 2x a week? bet it's not relax!

Betsy

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 2:35pm

HAPPY ANIVERSARY!!

Your aniversary sounds like it went about as good as my Mother's Day and Birthday. Sorry, and (((HUGS))).

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 3:05pm

Well so much for music therapy. At least for Mike.

After being completely wonderful, happy and conversational on the way down, he couldn't manage waiting 10 minutes in a new environment with new people he wasn't expecting. Decided he wanted to leave NOW. Well I pushed trying to get him to stay in my usual way (you don't have to talk to anyone but I am going here so you need to too). It usually works but he freaked. Attacked me and ended up restraining him for 20 minutes.

Grrrrrrrrrr I hate my life.

Renee

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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 3:11pm

I can sympathize with you as I seem to over commit myself too. I will give you the low down on what I am into now: President of the PTA for upcoming year, Chairperson for Community Awareness at my daughters middle school, Committeewoman for our County Republican Party, VP of our City Republican Club- OH AND let's not forget I work FULL-TIME!

I do believe, with learning of my son's condition, I will need to scale down these clubs/organizations.

I never rest either. Actually, I do between 11pm and 11:30 when everyone is in bed and all the work is done.