What do we do all day long???????????

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Registered: 09-10-2004
What do we do all day long???????????
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Fri, 07-27-2007 - 5:34pm

I've only posted to this board one time before.

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 9:31pm

Hey there,

Man I could have written your post in June 2002. Ds was 26 months old (had no idea what we were dealng with, just thought he was hyper...lil' odd) and as a teacher I was suddenly home with him for the summer. What saved my sanity that summer was if I gave up daycare for the summer months we lost it totally (and in suburban DC good daycare spots are gold dust); so at first I started dropping him off a few am hours a day a few days a week, then I let him stay through nap time, and by the end of the summer he was staying 4-5 days a week through nap. I feel awful about it now, as I know I was basically running away from what was scaring me.

In hindsight this is what I would have done instead:

Kept adding more therapy appts (within financial reason); made sure I joined a gym with a decent daycare (WITH A TRAIN SET, LOL), looked online for a good pdd/AS support group that was local, then worse case I'd have a place to be with ds every week. Basically, if I could find something to do every day (maybe except Friday), bring him home for lunch and nap and then make it through the next few hours before dh came home and night time rituals began. You are so lucky to have an idea what is going on with your ds already....that early intervention is awesome; (((Hugs))) let us know how it goes,

Dee

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Fri, 07-27-2007 - 10:03pm

Hi and welcome. This is all so new and you are going to need to take things a little slower -- I know, easier said than done if you are panicking and thinking you cannot waste a second --- BUT you are starting therapies and getting advice on what to do at home and learning, yes the learning curve is very steep. But the 2 of you will need to discover what works for YOU .. remember, the therapists don't live with you and they are paid. This is your life we are talking about here.

So don't feel guilty about needing to let him watch some TV and play some computer games when you need, around those therapies. And you will find things that work around what you need to do and the rest of your schedule. Some that worked well for us when ds was young --- music and dancing together. Have you read any Stanley Greenspan and floortime ideas? Those can be fun ways to enter his train games. Physical stuff is good like as rolling him up in a thick blanket and dragging him on the floor for sensory input, also sensory games such as warm sudsy water and washing plastic dishes together, summer stuff like sprinklers, sandbox and making mudpies, etc. Can you get to a pool and swim together? Water rocks. Story books, read to him often, we also did lots of tickling for shared enjoyment, in fact, I still do that if ds is getting too stuck and he's 10 now!!!

I would use those suggestions from therapists as just that, but I think you need to view them as a guide only and try what inspires you. And what will work for the 2 of you will come from the 2 of you and who you are as you learn together. Capesh? The best thing you are is Mom and love him up and be his rock and don't worry too much about the rest of it. Believe it or not, the rest will come!!!

HTH and stay in touch, ask away, we're here to help.

Sara

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Registered: 09-10-2004
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 2:44pm

Thanks Dee!

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Registered: 09-10-2004
Sat, 07-28-2007 - 2:47pm

Sara, thanks for the suggestions.

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