what do you do about meals?

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Registered: 08-09-2008
what do you do about meals?
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 7:28pm

Ok, I was here a week or so ago...I have a newly dx Aspie, and he is an incredibly picky eater.

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 6:20pm

My younger son has food issues.

He ate fine up until 10 mos then went cold turkey onto cheerios and smooth yoghurt - brand specific.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 10:22am
My DS (13) isn't an Aspie (he's dx with ADHD) but he's a very picky eater and seems to have some sensory issues involving his mouth (for example, he won't drink soda, the carbonation hurts his mouth). My DH and I like to have a variety of different meals, including some mild to moderately spicy ones. If I can, I'll make something for him that is very bland (he likes bland best) so if dinner is chicken in curry sauce, then I'll throw a piece of chicken in the oven in it's own pan so that there is a piece without sauce for him. If that's not possible (or it's just super-inconvenient) then he's welcome to make a sandwich or fix himself a bowl of cereal instead of eating what we've made. I also make sure that he gets his daily vitamin.
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Registered: 05-11-2005
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 9:57am

Ugh, the food fight! We have tried the "make them eat it" approach when our Aspie was a toddler. You can imagine how well that went over. We tried the, "you will eat this until it is gone" method when he was a preschooler and then served it for breakfast, lunch, etc. That didn't work. We tried the, you can't get down from the table until it's gone" trick when he was in kindergarten, and well, that lasted one night, because the he fell asleep at the table.

What really worked best for us was offering two options, The, "you can get down from the table" serving, 3 tiny bites of everything and the "you can get dessert" serving, which is cleaning their plate.

I have 7 kids and I can't serve 9 different meals. I try to rotate the kids' favorites in with our favorites. I have occasionally made some "adult only" meals, with the kids eating one of their "kid friendly" meals.

My Aspie has learned to eat a lot of things I never thought possible, casseroles being one of them. Gregory is not one much on food touching each other. He tolerates my meatloaf, but picks out the onions. He eats my chili, but picks out the big tomato chunks. He is 15 and doesn't give us quite the same problems with eating as when he was younger. It's my 7 year old, who will miss a meal and then get sick because he hasn't eaten that worries me. I have insisted on couple of bites before he can make a sandwich, because, regardless of my doctor's insistence that kids won't starve themselves, my 7 year old will make himself sick, rather than eat something he doesn't like, and that list is HUGE.

Good luck with this one!


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Registered: 04-19-2006
Sat, 07-17-2010 - 10:36pm
We have that same rule!!!! Out of my six kids three have spd! Meal time used to be very stressful, but has gotten much better with time. My now twelve year old will at least try something. He ate ketchup for the first time recently I was shocked. The one thing we do do to discourage the other kids from wanting something different is we make those not eating wait until after opur meal and then what they make has to be something simple so as it's not as appealing as what we are having. Examples tuna fish, PB&J, soup.