What gear is your child in?

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What gear is your child in?
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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:27pm
Slow? Mine is. It is virtually impossible to rush him to do anything. He absolutely operates at his own pace regardless of what is needed. I am just wondering if this is a AS thing?

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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 12:32pm

ROTFLOL YES. My sister calls us the slower family. My kids definately move at their own pace and if you try to rush them they tend to panic.

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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:07pm

I don't know if it's an AS thing or not, but Sylvia is almost always in slllooooowww gear -- except when she wants something for herself, in which case it has to happen IMMEDIATELY! LOL

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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 1:48pm
Bobby sounds just like Sylvia...trying to dress him, or get him to do somethng for me is awful, but god forbid he wants something!! Whats really ironic about it is how such a hyperactive child can be so turtleish

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Fri, 08-18-2006 - 6:57pm

Depends moment to moment and the kid. Cait is almost always in neutral. Just flows along at her own pace and there is no rushing her. But she HATES to be late. ROFL.

Mike depends moment to moment. Mostly he is in 4th or 5th gear. Full speed ahead or should I say full speed in circles doing random donuts and stunts. But if we are walking somewhere as a family he is almost always lagging behind and cannot be rushed for anything. I don't know if he is overwhelmed by all the sensory stuff or just going at his own pace. Most likely a bit of both. Usually has his head in the clouds.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 12:24am

Ahem, yes, we move slow around here.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 1:52am

For everything Lego-related, David is in high gear. Especially his mouth. He wakes up in the morning with a Lego creation in his mind, and the ideas never stop. When he's not building, he's doing a Lego monologue or directing a Lego scene. He calls this "playing" and often requires other people, like ME, to "play" with him. That basically means listening to everything he says, and going, "Oh my! What do you think we ought to do now" and "Whoa!! What's happening?!" and "Oh, good thing I've got my helmet on!" at appropriate times. Other times, he becomes inspired to write a story, draw a picture, or make a board game. Most of the time, these things are Lego-inspired. He does these activities with great gusto and extreme focus.

On the other hand, for things that are NOT Lego-related, like coming to the dinner table, going to school, or getting ready for bed, it's REALLY HARD to get him going. It's not that he's sluggish or in low-gear. He's just busy with Lego stuff. He sees all non-Lego stuff as a waste of time. In fact, each morning lately, we've been wasting about ten minutes each morning as he resists getting dressed, on the grounds that "getting dressed uses up time that I COULD have spent building with Legos."

We almost never leave the house on weekdays, because it just isn't worth it. There is rarely any place we HAVE to go, and it's not like I have any friends to visit. Well, okay, I have ONE friend, but she has her children so booked up with endless activities that they are never available.

So, uh...did I answer the question? And of course, I have another child too, who is presumably NT. He does a lot of what David does, but mostly because that is what he knows.

Hello, Nathan, I see that you are reading over my shoulder. Can you read this? If so, I'm very impressed. It is late, and you should be in bed. Oh, so you CAN read this! Well, that is very nice. Now GO TO BED! I love you! Good night.

Evelyn
Mom of David (8.5 AS) and Nathan (5 in a couple weeks)

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 1:21pm

Ok, so now I don't feel so bad as I am not alone. I hadn't really tied the anxiety thing to it, but now that I think about it- it all makes sense. When I am trying to get him to rush and get ready, he really does loose it and it must be the anxiety of the situation.

Thanks everyone!

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 2:24pm

I've been gone for awhile and am trying to catch up on the threads, but I had to respond to this one before I run out of time.

11yo dd isn't too bad, but both dh and 7yo ds are terribly slow. I found it rather intriguing to discover one day that in their MINDS, they are scurrying along. I would always get so frustrated with dh for poking along, esp if he was in front of me, blocking my pathway. I'd say "excuse me" several times, and he'd still be standing where he was or walking along slowly in front of me at the same pace. Finally one day he told me that he WAS hurrying. I've noticed several times since then, both with ds and dh, that if I've asked them to hurry, they begin hurrying in their head, but their body shows absolutely no difference. Ds hasn't done it for a few years, but he used to start huffing and puffing as if he were running a marathon, to prove that he was hurrying, but his body was still as pokey as every. It doesn't matter whether it's getting dressed, walking, etc., but almost everything happens in slow gear. Once in awhile, if properly motivated, ds can be pretty fast, but not usually.

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Sat, 08-19-2006 - 9:42pm
I think my son has a lot going on his head too. When I am trying to rush him, it is as though it takes longer because he has to start all over what he was doing- in his mind, I guess. I know it is difficult in school when everything is sorta a time format. On his IQ test, he did well in all area's that weren't timed. Anything timed, he did miserable. However, he would get the right answer as regardless to the fact that she said the time was up or tried to move on, he wouldn't move on until he gave the answer.
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Sun, 08-20-2006 - 12:30am
It is so funny you metioned your DH!

 


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