What would you do?

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Registered: 04-11-2007
What would you do?
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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 4:50pm
Ok, here is the situation. Wesley has started a theraputic horseback riding program. The program is sponsored by the 4-H. Last Thursday he had his class, and than had to sit around for an hour and a half while my brother had his class. The house that has the stable and arena provides scooters and bikes for the siblings to ride so they don't get bored. We have been working really hard trying to teach Wesley how to ride a bike. He is finally getting it, and for the first time, sticking with it. The daughter-in-law of teh home-owner showed up with her three kids to watch, or critisize and I saw it. Her daughter apparantly brought her bike, I didn't see this. She left it near the other bikes and Wesley got on to ride. Well, of course he fell down. This person we will call hmmm let's see, Ms. Crab, took my son aside and got after him for riding her daughters bike. I heard this, and walked over. Apparantly when he fell he put a hole in the bike seat. I told her obviously he fell off, it was an accident. She said yes, but he shouldn't have been riding the bike. I asked her how was he supposed to know that it belonged to someone else when it was with all the other bikes. She was incredibly nasty about the whole thing. Wesley was of course very upset, that this woman got after him, and he really couldn't focus of what she was saying because he had a bit of road rash on his hands and was obsessing on it. I guess he didn't react the way she wanted and kept getting more upset about it. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I will probably have to deal with this person for the next six weeks. I really didn't appreciate her taking my son aside and not coming to me instead. Also, it is a handicapped horseback riding program. She knew his name becuase she read it off the name tag. What the He!!?? Why does she think he is there? Duh!!! I am really worked up about this and itching to confront her, but afraid I will go to far. Ugh. Sorry so long, and maybe I'm just being over sensitive, I don't know. Thank for reading though.
Carey
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Registered: 11-28-2006
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 5:00pm

Carey,
I would write a letter to the owner and state exactly what happened. You can't have a handicaped program put in place if you can't make sure the people who are there don't understand things like this. Employee or not.

Then with this woman, I would just buy her a new seat, and be done with it. I would ignore her completely and if she gets nasty again, make another complaint.

I would want to pull this woman aside and rip her a new one thou for how she talked to my child, but you know, it might just be best if you made sure you and your kids were as far away from her as possible. Some people you just can't change you know?

Lainie

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 11:39pm

(((Carey!))))

Oh Heeelllllll nooooo!!! I wouldn't let ANYONE talk to MY child that way and not confront them! You have incredible patience honey! If it were ME (and lord knows I can be a hot head when it comes to my kids), I would definately confront her about what she did. If for no other reason than to keep her from doing it again to someone else's child! I know from personal experience that people like her are BULLYS. And the only way to take care of a bully is to confront them. She does things like that (pick on little kids) cuz she has gotten away with it before and it makes her feel like she is the one that has the power over the situation. NOT SO with our kids! YOU are your child's voice in situations like that. You will be the one that stands up for him and teaches him to stand up for himself. You are his CHAMPION...don't let a BULLY take that away.

Love and Hugs,
Jen