what a year it has been

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Registered: 06-03-2006
what a year it has been
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 8:47pm

A year ago son was dxed with Asperger,4 mos ago he was dxed with bp. Some times (days,weeks and minutes)have been harder than others. My Mom recognized the date and asked how I felt about the dx. I replied that a year ago I held onto the dx as if it was a life preserver.I have to admit I felt a huge relief when son's "quirks" were given a name. I learned everything I could about the dx. With therapy, medicine, new school son is doing okay. But the biggest change is the way I feel about him.I (try) not to take his upsets, tantrums,acting out to heart. I'm much faster to notice his trigggers and to take action about them. My folks have noticed the growth in son and in me.

The problem I have is one that has been a topic on this board- what is Asperger behavior and what behavior needs to be disciplined.

This would also be a good time to thank everyone on this board for their experience, wisdom and support. If the dx was a life preserver,then this board has been a life boat.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:41pm

I second that one!!!


I honestly don't know what I would have done without this board in the last few months.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 12:31am

I still remember our anniversarys of diagnosis well. Both of mine are in May for Cait and Mike. Funny, I don't remember Dave's but maybe I knew it wouldn't stick. I look back and there are definite changes we have gone through since, Some good and some bad. I have the 1 year anni of Cait's epilepsy Dx coming up and that one didn't hit quite as hard as the ASD one. Hmmmm, maybe I was just used to dx'es by then.

At any rate, even 9 years in, I still have a hard time between what is age appropriate behavioral troubles that need to be disciplined and what is AS

For example, Mr. Mike has been giving us (school and home) a HECK of a time about getting his work done over the last week. We (teacher, myself, everyone involved) are having a hard time telling if it is typical 11 yo trying to see what he can get away with, asserting independence and what is his inability to do it. In one case we did see where after going to "study hall" he was miraculously able to do something easily, but another area where he continued to be non-compliant and upset.

With each stage from toddler terrible 2's right up to graduation from high school, what is age appropriate childhood behavior that just needs discipline and what is disability which needs modification. It is the conundrum of autism.

Renee

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