Why are my kids so unhappy?

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Why are my kids so unhappy?
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 8:04pm

I don't know how much more I can handle. They both have things they really enjoy, but life just doesn't allow them to constantly be doing those things. Neither one seems to be able to cope with not being able to do their thing.

At any given time, it seems like at least one of them is moping or whimpering about something completely out of anyone's control. Starcraft II doesn't come out until the end of the month. The new Lego Harry Potter sets don't come out until October. The Lego Harry Potter video game crashes if you try to play it in two-player mode. It doesn't play well at all on any machine except Mom's (mine), which is sometimes in use. There aren't enough grey Lego pieces available to make a Hogwart's castle. There aren't any more Doctor Who episodes to stream from Netflix, and we don't know when the Matt Smith (11th Doctor) ones will be available.

These are just things we have to live with and accept, and there's no point in letting any of it ruin your day. But neither of my kids seems to be able to understand that. Especially David. All summer, he's been so obsessed with those things that he'll spend an entire day doing nothing but following me around harping on one of them. It's gotten so that I *want* him to just go and watch instant Doctor Who re-runs all day so that he's out of my hair.

I've tried telling them both about the concept of "Accept the things I cannot change", but neither will hear it. Nathan isn't as tiresome about it, but he lets things get him down way more than I think is normal. It's draining to see them both so unhappy all the time.

I mean really! *I* don't lie in *their* bedroom doorway, with my dirty feet thumping on the door, saying, "I WISH I had some way of going to New York in January to see Alan Rickman in a Henrik Ibsen play. SIGH!!! How many days until January? Why can't they do the play in our backyard right now?! I feel sick!! I NEVER get to see my favorite actor on stage! It's not fair!! I hate my life!!" I mean, how obnoxious is that?

I had my birthday last week, and when I blew out my candles and made a wish (three wishes, actually), one of them was that my family would just be happy. It sounds noble to want your family to be happy, but mostly it's just so they'll stop bringing me down.

Please, guys, tell me I'm not alone. :)


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Registered: 09-07-2006
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 12:51pm

"They both have things they really enjoy, but life just doesn't allow them to constantly be doing those things. Neither one seems to be able to cope with not being able to do their thing."

EXACTLY! You are not alone! My 6yr old DS(PDD-NOS) only has 2 things on his mind these days....playing games on the computer or watching TV. All day long he says "Now what, I'm bored" I suggest everything under the sun and he

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:49am
One of the things we do at dinner is to hold hands and say thank you. That is mostly what we do. But about once a week, I make every say something for which they are thankful. That seems to help- counting blessings.
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Registered: 07-24-2010
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 4:00pm

Yep - me too!

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Registered: 12-11-2007
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 2:56pm


I am usually a lurker here, but I could have written that post myself!! My two older ones have been driving me nuts since the first week of Summer vacation.. I think it may be a pre-teen age thing.. 10-21..lol.. I know it doesn't just happen in summer, but at least the rest of the year they have something else to complain about.. homework, school rules, teachers, waking up early!! It seems endless.. During this time, everything they complain about is us and how we can't seem to make the world fall into their lap.. Ugh.. BTW I make the same wish, every time I make any wish 'for my kids to be happy and healthy' so much for that right now!! Hang in there and you are definitely not alone!!

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 07-21-2010 - 12:28pm

Dear Evelyn,

I think I love you.

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Registered: 08-09-2008
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 8:45pm

Oh, you are soooooo not alone!