Why is it so hard for family to get it??
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|Thu, 07-10-2003 - 6:24pm|
We flew to Texas for the holiday. We gave DH's mother and their family the day of the 4th. She rarely gets the holiday, so i scheduled it for her on purpose. We had the Dixie Chicks concert on sunday, so i was limited to two days anyways.
Before coming, my MIL called to TELL me to bring Catie's swimsuit. Well, we took it to Texas. My mom has a 19,000 gallon diving pool in her back yard. Catie has really picked up on the swimming, and ended up having a GREAT time. She was jumping off the diving board with little encouragement. She would swim to the ladder, get out and jump in again. And she would do this for hours.
Anyways. After discussing with my husband, we decided NOT to take the swimsuit to my MILs. A) she didnt have a pool. So i didnt know exactly what she had planned on doing. B) we had other people to see as the day went on, and with her being 45 minutes from my mom, we didnt have time to stop and bathe Catie and redo the hair and outfits. So we didnt take them.
Now, this is my problem. Actually there are two. The last time we went to Texas, his mom gave Catie "for her birthday" a huge red rubber ball. Now we FLY. We can't take that home with us. She knows it. We know it. Catie can't understand it. So, my MIL gave her a gift she can't keep. Why not just give her a puppy and break her heart all the way????? I was SO mad.
This time, she bought her a pool (problem number one). Not a large pool. A TINY pool. About 3 feet wide, and about 12 inches deep. She is 3 years old. they bought her a "baby" pool. Now, again, she can't take it with her. And she can't even really use it. They also bought these plastic balls that float in water. His mom wanted her to go and sit in her suit in this little pool and play with these balls. Can we SAY she is THREE years old and not ONE years old?? DUH.
Well, i told her, OOOPS, forgot the suit. Sorry. She said "that is ok, she can go in her panties." Sorry, she doesnt WEAR panties. She isnt potty trained. She said "Well, can't she go in what she is wearing?" Um no, we have somewhere to go after this. I didnt bring sunblock. I didnt bring her swimsuit. And i didnt bring her floaties. "Well, she doesnt need her floaties in that pool. And you didnt bring a change of clothes??" Well, if i had BROUGHT a change of clothes, wouldnt i have brought her suit??????? AND, Catie isnt allowed in her suit WITH OUT her floaties. "well, she doesnt need her floaties" Well, you are TOTALLY missing the point here. Which is WHY we didnt bring it. She isnt going in THAT pool. She went to my husband, who not only backed me, but told her we had other places to go after her and to get over it.
Why is it that people totally disregard that YOU are the parent and what YOU say goes??? Why is it they think they can continue to argue with you and you will give in?? And why is it that they think that they can just change the rules and undo what i have spent a month getting through this kids head?? NO POOL WITH OUT FLOATIES... NO POOL WITH OUT SUNBLOCK.
After experiencing her pool incident several weeks ago, we have made it VERY clear what she wears and in what order it goes on. She now gets it. Why do mother in laws think that because they are a grandma they can just change everything????
P.S. The dixie chicks rocked! But they werent allowing purses OR cameras in the American Airlines Center in Dallas for security reasons. So, i didnt get pics :(