Will the crying ever stop?

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Registered: 08-26-2005
Will the crying ever stop?
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Tue, 12-20-2005 - 12:34pm
Hi all,
I was just wondering if your kids cryed a lot as toddlers. I know toddlers get frustrated but the way Ella crys about every little thing in my opinion is just not normal terrible two stuff.Maybe it's because I'm comparing her to how Jake was at that age. I'm having her evaluated by one of Jake's therapists on thursday but I have a feeling she's just going to tell me it's all sensory stuff.I plan to have an evaluation done by the same team Jake was diagnosed by at around age 2 but that's still 6 months away. It's not that I want to hear I have another child with PDD but I really feel the way Ella behaves has something more to it than just sensory.I'm a pretty patient person and usually crying dosen't bother me but this goes on everyday all day long and it's really starting to effect everyone. More and more we are making choices about where to go and what to do in our free time based on keeping Ella happy. I'm just worn out by her and feel like a complete failure as a mother because I just don't know how to keep her happy. If your kids were like this, when did the crying and tantrums end?
Teresa
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 1:57pm

I don't know... because I'm still dealing with the crying and the tantrums.

However, I definitely know exactly how you feel. We arrange everything that we can around Peanut to try and keep her happy. At least it helps a little.


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Registered: 02-24-2004
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 2:00pm

Teresa,

Well, I have one on the spectrum and one NT. My NT, Tyler....was always pretty mature for his age. So, he didn't cry alot. He was always patient, listened, and didn't really throw tantrums. He was always really good. I rarely, I mean rarely had to reprimend him for anything. On the other hand, Nathan cried ALOT. He just never seemed satisfied. But then there were times that he would just be oblivious and didn't seem to have a care in the world.

Anyway, as he got older and his speech improved and when he was able to understand me more....things got better. I realized that his crying was because he just didn't understand. It was from frustration, sensory, and his inability to express what it was that he wanted or needed. I guess I started explaining everything to him somewhere between 1 1/2 and 2 yrs of age. Just hoping to get thru to him, I kept repeating things. I figured repetition, perhaps he just needed extra help to "get" things. I'm a pretty consistant person, so this was easy for me to do.

I have to tell you though, I do remember being completely exhausted at the end of the day. My dh works from 8am to 9-10pm (sometimes longer!) So I know how you feel!

michelle