Worst Christmas Ever

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Registered: 05-16-2006
Worst Christmas Ever
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Mon, 12-25-2006 - 8:34pm
I found out this morning that I am pregnant, my dh is NOT happy. He feels deep down this new child is gonna be on the spectrum like our ds who's 3.
Our son didn't perform the way his dad would of liked today over my familys for lunch, and is basically laying in our guest room now giving himself a pity party.
I see our son making great strides and cause all of our friends kids ar NT he is ready to just loose it.
I have been crying all day. I am scared too, but I've wanted another child for a long time. My DH has issues and won't see a shrink either. I am going to start next month cause I can't have my nerves all screwed up like this.
Oh cause I have to tell ds 6x to something it's "not normal". I love that one. I honestly thought that our lunch today was ok, not stellar but ok. The whole time since we've been home I have been given a very cold shoulder.
I am so sad.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-25-2006 - 9:14pm

((((HUGS)))))

That is so hard on christmas day. A new baby should be an exciting christmas present but in the current circumstances I can see where it just added to your and your DH's stress. I hope soon that this turns around a bit.

Good for you for starting to see someone next month and take care of yourself. You can't force him to change or to get himself better but you can take care of you. In families like ours it is often good for a mom to get that level of support just because of the added stress.

I am truly truly sorry. This is a rough year for you but it will get better.

Renee

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 12-25-2006 - 9:33pm

Oh Honey!

-Paula

visit my blog at www.onesickmother.com
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Registered: 05-16-2006
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 6:24am
Thank you ladies. I cry now as I type. He emailed me in the middle of the night (haven't shared a bed in a long time) about how sick and depressed he is. He is pushing me over the edge. My ds has PDD and honestly I don't think he's that bad. Heck he acts like a normal three yr old but cause he scripts and he needs to be redirected DH thinks his PDD is bad. I sit in DS therepy 2x a week for an hour, I've seen issues and my DS doesn't have what some of the children have.
As for my pregnancy, he is convinced that this baby will be worse my our ds. Yes the odds are elevated but nothing is confirmed?
I wish he'd see help but he is FINE according to him. I can't wait to see a shrink. I need it. I feel like a single parent as is cause of DH work schedule. I run our son to school and therepy all week cook dinner set appt. etc..............
He gets home at 9-9:30 and me and ds are in bed already, I handel it all.
I wish he'd grow up and realize that his life isn't so bad.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 11:39am


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