Would you be concerned

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Registered: 03-30-2005
Would you be concerned
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Sat, 06-26-2010 - 10:00pm

Hi! Hope you don't mind me asking for some input here! My Pediatrician has said she doesn't seem concerned about my son, but I just am second guessing myself about him. He is 3 and is pretty much a typical child except for that he has some weird mannerisms. I guess you would call them stimming behaviors. He hand flaps and he stares at things with his mouth open (concentrating very hard). He does these things when something excites him. I have also seen him looking at his reflection and doing the mouth open stare too. He doesn't normally walk on his tip toes, but he does it every now & then. When he hand flaps & I ask him what he is doing then he will say that he is shaking the dirt off his hands! Also, when he walks he kind of holds his hands out to the sides with his fingers spread open... like his arms are kind of stiff & then don't just swing freely at his sides. Okay, so these are the things that concern me... and I notice them more when he is around other children b/c I don't see them doing the same things. And I am starting to worry that people look at him funny b/c it is a bit odd.

So, besides these things he seems pretty much normal. He talks fine, communicates fine, is very affectionate, very smart... knows his ABCs and counts great, makes eye contact and plays well with others. He has potty-trained with no issue. He adjusts well to different situations. He does throw tantrums & is defiant, but I'm not sure that it's any worse that with any other normal kid.

I'm just not sure if I should be concerned or not and I'm just sort of lost. Right now he is doing great & I don't know that I should insist on any type of testing or not. Maybe I should wait & see how he adjusts to preschool this Fall? I definitely would appreciate any advice you all could give me.

I have a half brother who has Asperger's and so I know a little bit, but Isaac really isn't like him except for the stimming behaviors. He isn't fixated on anything in particular like my half-brother is. And socially he does really good. Just not sure
what to think...

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Registered: 03-30-2005
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 12:18pm

Thanks so much everyone for your responses! I didn't realize that there was a SID board, so I will definitely check that out. I am really agreeing with you all that it seems to be a sensory issue. Just from having my half-brother to compare him to, I can see that he doesn't fit into the ASD diagnosis. And I will be heading to the library to check out that book! Thanks so much for responding & giving me some input on my worries! :)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 10:47am

I would agree with the others...rather than seeking a full blown ASD dx, I would start by treating the symptoms that you see.

                                

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 10:20pm

It's so hard to tell with just a brief description over the internet. But I'm a big believer in mommy's gut instinct that something is off. Have you considered sensory integration disorder? He may be stimming to provide additional sensory input into his system as a way of regulating himself. Do a search and see if anything you read seems to fit.

It's so hard when your child does unusual behaviors that don't fit in with normal children. I can totally understand why your guard would get up with your background too. But I don't see many red flags for an ASD.

Let us know what you think after doing some research.....

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson