Would you have said something?

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Would you have said something?
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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 1:02pm

Yesterday I was having lunch with a friend who is an RN turned LCSW (social worker). During our conversation she expressed a half-hearted concern about her 7 year old's "hatred" of everything. This little girl hates Monday's because it's computer day at school, she hates her house (they live in a gorgeous house, brand new, huge), she hates their van (again, new and lovely) she even goes so far as to say she hates her life. Although when her mom asks her "why", she can never give a reason. Then, what seems like moments later, she's little miss happy-go-lucky, bouncing on the furniture, skipping her way through the world. (Literally.)

This child had some pretty significant health problems when she was born, and they've lasted for several years. Now she appears to be fine physically, but I'm concerned that emotionally/mentally there's something going on. Some of the other things that mom described sounded like the child had some sensory issues going on.

So...what would you have done? Would you have listened and nodded, or would you have suggested to mom that perhaps there are enough "issues" to warrant further investigation?

Amy

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Registered: 06-03-2006
Fri, 02-23-2007 - 9:03am

hello,
coming into this conversation very late but i wanted to add something. my dearest friend has a daughter about son's age. for years these 2 have been each other's ptimary playmate. neither one initiates phone calls or visits with each other.both are intelligent but lack social abilities. recently i told the girl that when i ask her questions about school that i expect answers in full sentences.(last visit her mom & i nearly fell to the floor when she described her school day in detail to me.)my friend knows all about son's problems. without her this journey would have been much more difficult.recently she was talking about her daughter's behavior, i offeed her son's dr's phone number. she laughed. a few days later she asked me if i thought her daughter had asd. i suggested she have he daughter tested. then i offered to babysit her younger children while she has her tested. that shows i think it is important to have the testing done. this conversation was about a year in the making.

on the other hand, my brother's 2 sons are out of control. he & his wife throw the term bipolar aound because of their sons' behaviors. but neither one would get off their butts to get help. they just laugh about the destructive things that happen. i have not told them that my son is bipolar. brother & his wife show no concern for their kids nor mine. so even though they complain (actually they laugh) about their sons behaviors they are not asking for help. hopefully their school will pick up on the boys' actions and do something.

so if someone brings it up i may suggest looking further into it. i may not respond right then but maybe call them later & say something like ..i was thinking about what you said and maybe you should look into it further. i know this dr, hospital etc that i've been happy with. do you want the #?

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