Is your child good at school?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is your child good at school?
Mon, 06-23-2003 - 9:38pm
My ds has not been officially diagnosed yet for aspergers but his pediatrician is leaning towards that. He's only 4. Waiting to see phsyciatrist. Anyway, do any of your children act differently at school than they do at home. He seems like a totally different child at school and I don't understand how he can be so good at school and when he gets home he's so different. They don't see half the behaviour that I see. For example; he nevers poops in his pants at school but he can do it three and four times once he gets home



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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 8:26am
Tristan is 7yo, with ADHD, PDD-NOS, possible bipolar, and a couple other "ifs." School is his heaven! LOL

Yesterday was his last day - summer break is now upon us. He is happy to have summer, but also sad because he will be missing school. He is "almost" a total angel at school. Keep in mind, he is a boy, so he does still act up a little! lol ;) Some of the ASD traits shine thru regardless, others - when I mention them - make the teachers look at me really strange.

The one thing that I have thought of, and others tend to agree with me (docs, teachers,etc) is that school is SUCH a set routine. A comfort zone where everything happens the same way, every day.....11:10 is lunch, 9:25 is announcements, 12:15 on Weds. is library, etc. As much as I try, there is no way I can be that scheduled. Also, with him concentrating and working so hard at school, he is able to come home and "let loose" and not have to worry as much about the repercussions as he would at school. We love him, and will no matter what he does, and he knows that. That little fact makes the homelife a little more chaotic, but "safer" for him. Does that make any sense?! lol


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Registered: 04-26-2003
Tue, 06-24-2003 - 6:44pm
My 7yo ds (PDDNOS) is everyone's favorite at school! The teachers, secretaries,etc are always telling me what a doll he is and how lucky I am to have him! I always invite them over to our house from 4:00pm to 7:00pm just to see how lucky I really am! He doesn't scream or hit his brothers at school!

It is definitely the structure that he thrives on. And he has such great respect for his teachers.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-24-2003 - 9:24pm
Hi, my dd for the most part is quiet & shy @ school. She has 1 or 2 friends. She has ADD but pretends to listen to the teacher. I know she daydreams probably most of the time. At home she is different. She fights alot with her older sister. My older dd teases her & gets her riled up. They fight over TV alot. My younger dd with AS doesn't respect personal boundaries & jumps on, wrestles & hits the older one alot. She roughhouses with my dh too. Like WWF. She has temper tantrums when things don't go her way. She is messy @ home. Eats & drops everything on the floor, etc. Maybe she knows Mom will pick up after her & she knows I will cut her some slack. I wish she behaved like she does @ school. She will be in summer school all of July so maybe it will be calmer during the day here. Take care-MaryAnn