Army Wife Mother of 3-Looking for answer

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Army Wife Mother of 3-Looking for answer
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:10pm

Do you have some days that go great, he's just as happy to comply and others that are like this one where he just won't do anything at all?
So what is spectrum anxiety? My son has been anxious since birth I think. He never went to anyone other than me and still doesn't really. He's 4.

Let me rewind for a minute.
DS was born in 2003. At 10 months he started having night terrors. (Not sure if anyone here is familiar with those). These were occurring 3-4 times nightly and have recently reduced to a few a month. We went the month of May without any Praise God.
At age 2 he seemed to lose some speech he already had and at 29 months was placed in Babynet and was seen by an early interventionist. His DX at that time was "global developmental delays". By the time he was 3 and transitioning out of the program he only had delays in cognitive and social areas. His fine and gross motor skills were on a 6 year old level. (Hey what can I say, his dad played football and I danced my whole life, he's got good coordination genes :)
Anyway, at 3 1/2 he was placed in a "Preschool child with disabilities" class at the local public school due to his low scores on tests. His language scores were about a 70 on average. On the psych part of the test his high risk area was "withdrawal". He really doesn't like to interact much with other kids, but will tolerate it for a few minutes then go off by himself. If your still reading, God Bless you.
Anyhoo, the end of the school came and his teacher was concerened about lack of affect at school, difficulty processing (took a long time for him to pull the info out of his head), and lack of focus. He was easily distracted but always followed directions and class rules. When it came to singing time and dancing or anything with motor skills he led the class. Oh he also recieved Speech therapy at the school. Mild stuttering and lost of articulation errors and also some language therapy.
Our pediatrician has now referred him to a developmental pediatrician in Charleston, SC and the Medical University of South Carolina. We are still waiting on an appt.
He is currently enrolled in a Christian Summer camp run by one of the local Bible colleges here. They go to the water parks, bowling, the zoo, IMAX theaters, parks, and so many other places. They have devotions and crafts. Today they were so happy that Decker got in the lazy river at the park and floated on a float all by himself. That's a huge step from sitting on the steps in the baby pool playing with his toy shark. He even gets high fives from the bigger campers and has a girl that just loves him. She's 12. Wow, puppy love starts young lol.
My question is when he comes home he starts his normal aggressive behavior. HItting his sister (who is 3), hitting ME, screaming, throwing things, going completely against the flow. His sister is now starting to just give in to him by handing him whatever he wants. So, now I've got another issue to squash. She is a loving sweet girl and she gets her feelings hurt often when he smacks her face and takes her most prized toy from her. I love my son with everything in me, I'd die for him, I'd do anything for him! Does this fit the category of PDD? Am I even in the right place? Do night terrors have something to do with this? Am I just insane from lack of sleep for 4 years? Did I mention I added a new baby girl to the mix March 19, 2007. Whew. Hubby is off training soldiers for war and I'm left here to "figure things out". Nice.
I am so far gone I forgot why I originally replied.
29 yo married Mom of 3 (DS, 4, DD, 3, DD, 3 months)


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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 9:34am

Hi Bryanne and welcome!

I read your post in the "I admit" thread, but I only just found this.


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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 10:01am

Hi Bryanne!

My Nick (5, Aspergers, ADHD, Anxiety) has Monster Days too.

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 10:02am

I so appreciate your post! It made me feel alot better! Thanks for your support and kind words.
I feel much more normal now. lol


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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 10:29am


First off, WELCOME! Second of all, KUDOS to your family for making the sacrifice of serving our country. When a spouse serves, I truly believe that the entire family serves with him/her. And there is no possible way I could handle our three kiddos without my hubby being around to help out. Your strength and courage are admirable.

Like Paula said, you've stumbled into an incredibly supportive group. I'm proud to say I have better friends on this board than in "real life"- because, quite simply, these ladies understand me and my family!

We used to have Monster Days, but more recently our youngest (DD) has been experiencing what I refer to as rapid fire mood cycles. She'll go from uncontrolled giggling one minute to catastrophic sobbing meltdown (for reasons nobody knows, nor that she can communicate) the next. So while our situation is different from yours, I can certainly relate to the unpredictability (sp?).

Anyway, pull up a comfy chair, grab your favorite beverage of choice (mine is usually of the adult variety LOL) and chime in whenever you want!


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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 1:40pm

Welcome to the group Bryanne! I'm sorry that you've been having to go through so much, especially on your own. I know that you'll find this group to be a very helpful place. I hope that you enjoy it as much as I do!

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Mon, 07-02-2007 - 10:11pm

Hey Bryanne!

I'm in SC, too! We live in the Columbia area. Our family doctor referred us to the developmental peds at USC but we couldn't get an appointment so we ended up calling the autism society. They helped us get an appointment for diagnosis fairly quickly through the SC department of disabilities and special needs/ autism division. This also has made it easier to get the school district to do more for our son. We do see the developmental ped here in Columbia at usc, but we were able to get services at school more quickly w/ the Dx from the psychologist from the autism division. Once your child is dx the autism division also provides training and support. The SC autism society is great as well.

I'm mom to 5 kiddos ages 15 1/2 to 5. My middle son is almost 11 and was finally dx at age 8 (we were in denial).

Glad to have you here. There are lots of really knowledgeable ladies and they are all so helpful! Give me a yell if you need anything!


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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 9:19am

Thanks Betsy!

My husband works at Fort Jackon in Columbia. :) I also graduated from Columbia College back in 99. So I know the area well, I was raised in Sumter. :)
Thanks for your words of advice and encouragement!

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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 1:32pm

Hey Bryanne,

I'm a transplant via Wisconsin and Illinois. We've been here almost 3 years. We're getting settled and making friends. We're in Rich/Lex5 school district. We looked long and hard at school districts for their special ed and found that dist5 was good. Since we've been here I've heard that Rich2 and Lex1 are very good as well.

Let me know if you need anything. I'm learning lots about the help available in the area.


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Wed, 07-04-2007 - 7:40pm


As a former US Army PFC, I send my kudos to you and your DH for serving. I too believe very firmly that the entire family "serves" having grown up in a Navy family myself.

My DS is 11 and was Dx'd Bipolar NOS at 8 and ASD at 9. He has been very much the "try to hold it together at school and unleash in the comfort of home" type. So much so that DH (DS's stepdad) actually had to videotape these types of things happening at 5 just to get anyone to listen to us to allow even a minor counseling referral. I'm now due with my 4th (DH had 1 and I had 3 when we got together, this will be our only "ours") and am happy to feel that things are looking up. It's taken alot of research on my part (been through all the -"must be YOU doing this to him since he lashes out AT you..." but once i found research that this happens with all kinds of BP/ASD kids they promptly quit that line of attack.)

He's got a new Dr. and soon will have a new therapist who both specialize in BOTH his dx's. The therapist, who i have only interviewed on the phone, actually was NOT surprised about any of this NOR was he surprised that the school functioning has gotten worse as DS gets older. Medication's being given all at night and DS seems stable enough right now that for the FIRST TIME I'm letting him ride his bike around the neighborhood without being paranoid every second...

I'm so happy for you that you are helping your child in this way!!!

You are NOT alone....


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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 8:28am
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! I finally feel a big sigh of relief talking with you ladies. Thank you so much!!!