hello and welcome to the board,
My nickname as a child was "Pauli". There are not many of us about ;).
You know, although you don't like the school district's assessment, in some ways it may work to your advantage. Many of "our" kids are shortchanged by the school system, because they are often very bright, so do well academically, however they have issues with social sensory and classroom functioning which can make their school lives extremely difficult, but these are not recognised by the school as issues, because the kds can (somehow) pass tests.
So the district assessment could be a blessing in disguise. Unless, of course, they are proposing a totally unsuitable placement for him! Have they proposed a (pre)school placement for him? Is he starting Kindy this year or next?
Let us know, we may be able to advise you.
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Yes that is the exact problem the diagnosis caused us.
If you want to homeschool him, then it is not an issue.
However if you *want* to send him to school, but are homeschooling because of placement issues, well, the law is on your side, and my advice to you is to fight the placement. Any child, regardless of DX, is entitled to a free and public education in the Least Restrictive Environment (LRE)If you feel the class is too restrictive, you can fight for him to be placed in a different class -say a regular class with an aide.
The special education plans board is a better resource than this one the particulars for this sort of thing. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-ppiep
However I do encourage you to stick around here, post, chime in on any thread and let us get to know you better.