welcome!!! I m not sure what adivce i could give as my head is always about to expload too! My daughter sounds somewhat similar to your son, yet we get the run around, oh yes she has autistic tendencies but we arent sure if its asd. blah, im sure uve heard that at some time in your journey!! this is a great group , the ladies are wonderful!!
Michelle,welcome to the board. Please feel free to post whatever questions you need and to chime in on any topic.
Cole sounds like a great kid. (I think he and my son should get together over some bubbles, lol).
I think you should keep on the school to get services. Be nice but persistent. Our district provided OT Speech therapy and a special ed teacher to work with my daughter in her preschool. My son, who is more severely impacted, received a special ed preschool paid for through the district, and they helped him tons. He is now 9 and mainstreamed n 4th grade, so special school is not necessarily forever.
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