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|Tue, 11-15-2005 - 8:12pm|
DS was in an at-home daycare until he was 4.5 years. In September 2002 he was enrolled in a private daycare-preschool. By December of the same year, I was told to find him a new preschool. His daily meltdowns and other disruptive behavior was more than they were willing to endure. His teacher suggested that I get him evaluated for being developmental disabled. January 2003, he was enrolled in another preschool. He stayed there for preschool, summer vacation care and before/aftercare from Kindergarten. There were several behavior problems (meltdowns, temper tantrums, etc.) the entire time. While there, he was evaluated by the Learning Center Team (which was comprised of a child psychologist, ST, OT and someone else – I can’t remember their specialty). They felt there were no developmental problems. First grade was riddled with more behavior problems. He started to show great amounts of anxiety in relation to school. As a stress reliever, he started to chew on everything – pencils, crayons, erasers, glue bottles – anything. He was not ingesting the items – just chewing. We had him tested for lead poisoning (pika) but the test came back normal. He seemed to be having meltdowns for anything that frustrated him and everything frustrated him – the computer took to long to boot up, there were no train books in the library, the other children refused to play space train with him, etc. In Spring 2005, his first grade teacher told me I needed to do more – I needed to get him into counseling or something – she could not handle him. I got a referral from his pediatrician for a counselor and he started seeing her at the end of first grade and all through the summer. We had a great summer and we were all excited for 2nd grade. The new school year started and everything seemed to be going well and then I started to get the phone calls – almost daily temper tantrums and meltdowns, chewing, poor relations with peers. After my third meeting between myself, son’s teacher, guidance counselor and therapist, AS was brought up by his therapist. I must say it does sound like him. My son is 7 yrs old, above average intelligence, EXTREMELY chatty, obsessive interest is trains (reads every book on them, watches every video/DVD on them, draws them in acute detail, collects them, talks about them constantly, etc.), no friends – wants to have friends but can’t figure out how to connect with them, when he does interact with kids – he actually plays parallel to them not with them or he becomes very upset if they will not play what he wants to play (his way or the highway), easily frustrated and overwhelmed, physically clumsy, he is described as compassionate but lacking empathy, he thrives on routine, easily frustrated with change (a substitute teacher means a really bad day for him), hates surprises, over-sensitive to sound, picky eater, some mild phobias, had problems learning to use scissors and tie shoes (still refuses to tie shoes most time).
But my son is also very sweet, curious, silly, intelligent and creative, he is a good artist (draws in scale and correct proportion), he is kind and gentle to animals, he is an excellent reader (and comprehends what he reads as well), he still likes to sit in my lap and cuddle when he is tired. I get to enjoy a very sweet child and it kills me to know that he is considered the problem child at school – no one (teachers and kids) want to deal with him.
He currently does not have any help at school. We have just put all the pieces to the puzzle together and are working toward a diagnosis. The school he is at currently is being very understanding and are trying to work with him the best they can but I have been warned that the next year is a different story. He will be going to another school (for 3rd, 4th and 5th) and they will not make any allowances for a child unless there is an IEP/504 – no exceptions. That is why we are trying to get a diagnosis now.
That is our basic story – of course there are a lot of other issues and incidents but I could be typing all day if I included them – LOL! Thank you for reading this and thank you for welcoming me to your board.
Edited 11/16/2005 9:47 am ET by jinxgirl2001