Hey Paula! (any anyone else :p)

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Hey Paula! (any anyone else :p)
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Mon, 09-14-2009 - 4:10pm

Remember talking about my daughter going to preschool soon?

If not, that's okay, one can only remember so much right? She'll be 3 soon, she has had seizures when she was sick and one when she was overly shy (it lasted 40 mins, unconscious, foaming, twitching), she wears orthotics, has mild hypotonia, and expressive speech difficulties. I was worried about her going to preschool, since it is 3 hours a day, and she is overly shy to the point of shutting down.

I took your advice to look into any other preschools there are around here.

I met another parent who lives in our school district. He said they bus his son to the next school district, to a class of 5. I was like FIIIVE? lol His son is hard at hearing, so the preschool is made up of those who cannot hear, and those who have difficulty hearing. They use sign language AND talk the entire day. My daughter primarily speaks through ASL. She "talks", but it's not incoherent.

Now those are the two things I was worried about- smaller class size (because of her shutting down), and sign language (she wouldn't be able to express her needs).

Now whether or not they would allow her into that class is another story since she isn't hard at hearing (we think anyways, hearing test to come soon). I don't even know if it would be a good fit. It is just so nice to know that maybe there are other preschools that could fit her needs.

Thanks for the advice.

I'll definitely keep looking. :D:D:D

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Thu, 11-12-2009 - 8:29pm

Remember you telling me that it's about my DD, not me, and I should suck it up and go to the school I pulled my son out of? (maybe not in these words! hehe)

I did it! I walked into the school with my daughter and stayed there for 1 hour 45 mins for therapies.

This would be my last resort, but it really is our best option!

Thanks. :)

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Wed, 09-30-2009 - 5:32pm

Oh my gosh.

We had her eval today.

The OT was giving the PT looks of annoyance about our DD who was OF COURSE very shy and didn't build or even tough the blocks when she wanted her to make a tower. So what? No need to be annoyed. She didn't throw the blocks. She just sat there.

THEN the lady I've been asking about accommodating her shyness/shutting down gave me the "Look, Mam, we don't have anything different to offer." And went on to say that once she's in the preschool, if she's not doing well, I can make an appt to review what can be done. But nobody would give me any idea about what there is to be done. Like, oh well, just put her in.

AND they decided on a cognitive assessment too. Like they think her IQ is low because she just sits there.

OH MY GOSH.

I hate it already.

Reminds me of the reason I pulled my own son out of the same district last year.

No little 2 year old needs dirty looks. No parent needs the "Look, Mam.."

Maybe she shouldn't even go.

maybe this is too fresh in my mind and I'll feel differently about it later.

*sigh*

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Sat, 09-26-2009 - 8:30am

I'm sorry, I forgot to answer your question. (OK I didn't forget. I was away, and then I had a massive symptom flare).

The school we chose was a full-day public program which had tiny class sizes and a full-time speech therapist in the classroom.

Officially it was a 12-2-2 ratio, (12 kids, one teacher, one speech therapist and two assistants) but they split the kids between two connecting classrooms, the teacher took 6 kids and the speech therapist took the other six. Peter was in the speech therapist's class. That was when he was four and I credit her with finally teaching him functional language (but the tiny class size was also key for him. He has always done better in a small class)

This program was on Long Island, NY. They knew of no other program where you can get 6 hours of speech therapy a day.

If I were in your shoes, I would push hard for more speech therapy, if you think that's what she needs. Many of the programs I saw were rejected because of their attitude towards speech therapy: "We do speech therapy 2x45 per week". Well guess what? that's the WRONG answer. The correct answer is "we give whatever speech therapy is written on the IEP". But most schools then "recommend" 2x45 (or whatever) because that is what they DO, not because that is what the child NEEDS. So you need to really probe on that one.

Having the evaluators in my corner at the IEP meetings helped me a lot, BTW.

good luck.

-Paula

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Sat, 09-26-2009 - 1:44am

I went to visit the regular preschool yesterday. There were less children that day, 2 when we went in, then 5 a little later. So my girl did better than I though! It did seem a little more like kindergarten than I thought though, like the stations were beyond what the kids were capable of (cutting, gluing, writing the letter E). Maybe that's the point? That was only an hour of the day though. The teacher was nice, and she has 2 paras.

I'm kinda worried about the minimal speech she'll receive. Only 30 minutes of every therapy a week. I guess I expected more.

Maybe I'm being negative! Preschool testing next week, then our very first IEP meeting. Wish us luck!

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Sun, 09-20-2009 - 12:43am

That's neat! I'm going to keep that one on my list of options for sure.

What kind of preschool did your little man end up going to?

We are going to the local preschool this week for a visit. I need to know what she could be like there. The teacher there hasn't ever had anyone who shuts down, she didn't even seem to understand what I meant by shutting down... we shall see!

Our meeting for her evaluation is coming up in just over a week. Maybe they'll see what she's like there! Okay, I know they will!

I am getting letters from my daughter's speech therapist regarding the speech group, and how she shut down there, and why they switched her to 1:1. Also a letter from her physical therapist who suggested the letters in the first place.

I had my resource coordinater from birth to three email the preschool learning specialist, and I have called her myself just to let her know of my concerns.

I'm still going to look and see what else there is.

Thank you!!!!!! :o)

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Wed, 09-16-2009 - 7:23pm

I only just saw this. So sorry for the delay.

One of the schools we considered for our son was a school for the deaf, which also did a lot of work with hearing SN kids at the preschool level. They had a wonderful program, very visually based, which works great for specrum kids, but with a lot of ephasis on the spoken word. They used that system where the kids who nead it wear headphones, and the teacher could speak right into their ear if needed (can't for the life of me remember the name of that system. This was the first place I had seen it in use with kids so young.

So what I am basically saying is your idea is a proven one.


I think that class sounds great and you could probably make a good case for getting her in. I think you should follow up with it. Have you contacted the school and asked to speak to them and observe a class?

Check out other programs in parallel, too; -JIC. And please let us know how it goes.

Good luck!

-Paula

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