Hi, I'm new

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Hi, I'm new
Wed, 04-12-2006 - 8:56pm

My 5yo DS was just diagnosed with ASD Monday. It was not a "shock" per se. I always knew there was something "off" since my DS was 18 months (no speech/language). But still, having it in black and white still hurts.

But having this diagnosis will not change the fact that my DS is still the same funny, smart, flirty, sassy boy who loves to cuddle with his mommy every morning and every night. He is still my boy, just intensified, lol.

What books or websites can you recommend to me to get me started on this adventure? His psychologist recommend a couple, but I want to hear what other Mom's recommend, kwim?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 12:49am

I have been through the diagnostic process a bunch of times and it has been mind blowing every time or just about. I always get a feeling in the pit of my stomach and can't sleep for a few days. I obsess on it for a bit. What does it mean? What do I do now?

This even happened this time. My son's diagnosis was changed from AS to HFA with OCD, etc. Still got that feeling in the pit of my stomach. And he is 10 and he had his first diagnosis/evaluation at 3 it has just been an evolving process with him. No one has been able to put thier finger on him specifically and as he gets older they get closer. Still a tough call though, so his therapist calls him "alphabet soup". HFA, OCD, SID, Mood disorder (?BP), TS, I think that covers it.

But he is still the same kid and the process will be much quicker this time.

It is a grieving process we all much go through. It isn't that our child is gone, but a whole new mindset must be adopted and lived with. Our whole view of parenting has to change and it is a steep learning curve with lots of new stuff. It is a traumatic shock to the system so take your time processing it.


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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 1:32pm

Hi Frazz and Welcome,

I won't add to your load by throwing a bunch of books and websites at you. You got plenty to keep you "off the streets and out of the bars", (to use a local expression of mine) for quite some time!

THe first few weeks after a diagnoses are very fraught -they were for me, anyway, so I just wanted to let you know that this is a safe place for you to rant, ask questions and get support as often as you need to. There is no time limit and we are open 24/7.

I am Paula, WOTH mom to Peter, 7, HFA (i.e. High-Functioning Autistic), and Siobhan, 6 next month, officially "at risk for Asperger's Syndrome"



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