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|Tue, 07-10-2007 - 6:35pm|
I used to be active on a few boards here years back, but life has just been too crazy to find the time. I have a DH, Paul & 2 DC, DS, Jeremiah (6, almost 7) and DD, Joenna (3).
DS was dx w/Asperger's spectrum W/ADHD & OCD/Anxiety disorders. I cried when I first got the dx, but also felt a bit relieved that we weren't crazy, we weren't bad parents, that what we saw & experienced w/DS was real and we can now deal with it. I first read an article on i village a few years ago on raising spirited children & felt that was DS to a T. (http://parenting.ivillage.com/gs/gsbehavior/0,,45pv,00.html) I brought it up to his ped. at the time & he said he was just a normal boy. I am a middle school teacher & have taught many students w/various disorders, but never taught anyone dx w/AS until a couple of years ago. That's when I started looking into it & really thought to myself that's sounds like DS. I also realized that he seemed to have OCD tendencies. DH & I do too, but are not clinically OCD.
We had a high speed head on collision 1 1/2 years ago that our whole family was involved in. Thank God the kids were physically alright since they were properly restrained. I was bruised & sore for a couple months, but DS had his foot shattered & went to emergency surgery & was out of work for 7 months. This was a very traumatic experience for all of us, but especially DS. We began taking him to a therapist then & fears came out. She also thought he might have ADHD & suggested going to a child psychiatrist. We were not happy with him, but through the nurse at my school we found an awesome ped. that specializes in ADHD & other disorders. We now see him and are starting to see a child psychologist in comjunction w/him. We had him evaluated through the school psychologist as well and we now have a 504 plan in place for him.
His symptoms are difficulty reading others in social situations,will often stand too close to others, will talk about things even though the person shows no interest in the subject, doesn't have many friends, intense focus on things of interest, lack of empathy, lack of coordination, uncomfortable w/change, sensitivity to loud noises, focus on math/fixation w/numbers, fixation on rules & enforcing rules, lack of attention, forgetfulness, loses things, easily distracted, can't sit still long, constantly out of his seat at school, loud, hyper, talks excessively, blurts things out, difficulty waiting, interupts, impulsive, angry outbursts, aggressiveness, sensitive to criticism, he has to do things in certain orders & in certain ways, he lines things up and gets upset if anyone messes them up, he is a perfectionist, he gets angry when people don't do things the "right" way, must finish things, has fears of germs and must wash hands & shower thoroughly, can't touch his shoes, & worries excessively.
I am mainly concerned with not knowing what he is thinking (he doesn't share his fears or many of his other thoughts with me - he says because he forgets) and dealing with his aggression. He was on Zoloft which worked great for his OCD/anxiety (he didn't worry about a thing!), but triggered his ADHD symptoms & made him much more uncontrollably aggressive. He is now taking Metadate CD which helps him pay attention a lot better & control his hyperness & impulsivity. He also started taking Straterra.
I guess I came here for support and advice about how to deal with DS. I used to think he could control things (years ago) & felt he was just "pushing my buttons" and would get very angry & yell, which made things worse. Now that I understand him a little better, I don't get as angry or yell as much, but it is still very difficult to deal with. I know we are headed in the right direction, but I could use all the help I can get.