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Thu, 12-04-2008 - 8:30pm

Hi,


I have a dd who is almost 3 with a diagnosis of PDD-NOS and global appraxia -- she's is starting to speak now and make requests spontaneously-- considering where we started she is coming along nicely -- due to the speech delay -- I usually post on the speech delay board. DD's been in EI since 14 months and began VBA therapy at 18 mons and is up to about 12 hours of formal therapy (VBA, Pt, Ot, and St) a week now. She was officially diagnosed with PDD-NOS in September of this year.


We are currently in midst of the IEP process for preschool -- my reason for posting is because I am really very confused about what to do next...We have a really great (from what I have been told)

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Sun, 12-07-2008 - 3:47pm
My son was in a regular ed. preschool last year, and although he ended up liking it and doing well, I always felt he didn't get the one on one attention that he needed when it came time to do assignments and interact with other kids.

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 12:45pm

Hi and welcome.

We had our DS in special ed preschool not specific to autism, but he had no NT kids in his class. He has also been in special ed private schools for elementary school, where he has made amazing progress without being mainstreamed -- our public school system is overcrowded and underfunded, and a beaurocratic nightmare, so we wouldn't even consider it. We have had him in other mainstream activities, such as chess club, baseball, theatre productions, and over the years he has been with NT children (several of which are his friends) and he can do very well with them.

I am just writing to say that every child is different and there are many paths towards independence and growth, and as other posters have said, you are the best judge of what your child needs next. We spent 2 years homeschooling (long story) and I think he made some amazing progress during those years. Because we know lots of children with various types of autism, I would not say that I think mainstreamed children are necessarily any better at socializing than children who spent most of their years in special ed schools, it depends on the child and the school experience.

Sara

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Sat, 12-06-2008 - 11:39am

Hello and welcome to our little group.

I think you should visit all the options -and indeed search out other possibilities that may not have been presented as options and then go with your gut and push for the placement you think will best suit her.

We started off in a special ed preschool at 3yo and then had to go to a more restrictive environment because he made no progress that year. We went from a 9-1-2 to a 6-1-2. He simply could not cope with a larger class size.

As he got older and made a lot of progress, we were able to mainstream him for a subject, then two. He is now in 5th grade and is fully mainstreamed since 4th grade. We had to take it very, very slowly but it worked.

I don't know if your child has the same needs as mine and indeed my other Aspie was mainstreamed with supports since pre-K. A lot depends on what the child can handle. Unfortunately you don't always know what they can handle without trying things (they can surprise you!), and it is difficult to fight against the school for a more restrictive environment, because the law is on their side.

What you can do is this: Build a review into the IEP. So you put her in the recommended class for a month or two, and have an IEP meeting scheduled to review her progress towards the end of that period with an eye to changing the placement if needed. That will show them that you are willing to try things their way, but you are serious about measuring her progress and finding the right placement for her.

I hope this helps some.

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 3:18pm

Hello, Gabe is also in a privatly run preschool program with NT kids.

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Fri, 12-05-2008 - 1:31pm

For us we wanted our daughter to be in a classrm with NT kids, and thus far it has worked out great!! Socially she has become much more adaptive to children being around her, and much more talkitive than she ever used to be.


Like others have said, visit the schools, get all the facts make a pros and cons list , and go with ur gut!!!


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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 11:57pm

Welcome to the board! I'm glad you stopped over to check us out.

As for your question...... I do think you can overthink things like this. As PP noted, it's not a irrevocable decision. It can be made and remade. That being said, I do think that mommy's gut feel has some validity to it. If the smaller class size and higher degree of structure feels good, go for it. If the appeal of having NT kids as models and the focus on language feels right, then go for that. The school district is coming from a place of mandate - legally they have to provide the 'least restrictive environment' as a possible placement. But parents have the final decision. I'd say to check them both out and go with your gut feel.

We've gone with least restrictive environment with all of our kids so far - and it's worked out fine for the most part. Last year, DS#2 didn't do much work in kindy, so we had he repeat the grade - in the same environment. He's doing much better this year. He's very immature along with his other challenges. I"m not certain what placement we'll choose for him next year as our choices will be different plus we may move out of this district. Our eldest has done very well mainstreamed with an aide.

So, in the end the decision will be yours to make. Can't change it. But I hope that some of the points and thoughts we fling your way help to make the process a bit easier for you.

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In reply to: mlbmom2006
Thu, 12-04-2008 - 9:33pm

Hi and welcome!