Hubby has AS

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Registered: 04-06-2006
Hubby has AS
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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 10:37am

Hi-- I just found this board and I am wondering if you are all parents of AS children

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: mommyricey
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 10:49pm

Oh I feel ya! I totally get the all about dh-ness. Anytime I'm sick, something goes wrong, ds does something...it somehow always comes back to dh. Either its happened to him, what he thinks about it, what he would do. Very, very self centered. When I was pregnant, I'd say the baby is really kicking and he'd be like, oh my stomach is killing me too!!!. Hellooooo, no 8lb. baby kicking your ribs. That's a huge issue for us. Sometimes it drives me nuts. He gets mad because I'm constantly saying, "it's not about YOU."


It helps to know that they truly can't help it. It's just how they receive & process info. and how it all relates in those awesome aspie brains. What helps for my dh, is if I gently make him aware of it. He will make a fairly concerted effort to try and look at it from another prospective. I've seen him truly struggle with that. It's almost impossible for him to unlock the view that he has and try to see it from another angle. There is no gray area. Just black and white. It's definitely not easy being married to an Aspie. :) It's not boring either!!LOL


 

Jen

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In reply to: mommyricey
Wed, 06-25-2008 - 3:00pm

I totally hear that.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
In reply to: mommyricey
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:30pm
I'm pretty sure my dh has a 'touch' of AS, but I'm 99% positive my father-in-law has it. It's clearly genetic on dh's side of the family...as is evident when you add in the cousin and nephew who are on the spectrum. Interesting family!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: mommyricey
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 11:35pm

My dh's father is textbook. It's so interesting to see my dh, his dad & my son all in the same room together. LOL


Jen

 

Jen

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