I always knew....now how do we begin?
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|Thu, 07-05-2007 - 9:20pm|
I don't think if this is the exact board that I should be posting on, but I know I'm close.
I'm finally figuring out that my son has some form of mild autism. He is 7, but I knew this 3 yrs ago after reading a book at Barnes and Noble. At the time, I felt silly and thought I was over-reacting, etc.
Let me start with today .... We just finished 2 weeks worth of swim lessons. He cried every day we went there (sometimes in front of the other kids who are all younger than him).The teacher (who used to be a firefighter) VERY loudly called out my name yesterday and said something is wrong with him. OK, it wasn't worded just like that. He said my son can swim, but is experiencing great anxiety and asked if he's experienced some sort of trauma. He then said this wasn't "right" and needed to get it checked out. It just so happends that I was sitting next to a lady whose child has Autism. She recalled that I mentioned my son being a great (and comfortable) swimmer on his back, yet he panics on his front. We then talked further and she discussed her son's disorder, Sensory Integration Disorder, etc.
I know he must have this and something else going on. I knew and now I really know.
Bare with me as I work this out (hopefully I don't ramble too much!).He walked very late (18 months). 2 weeks after learning to walk, he was able to identify and say his ABC's. He loved reading license plates! By 2 1/2 yrs or so he could read and identify the presidents of the US. At 3 he could identify classical composers and the era in which they wrote, as well as states,capitols and countries. Such a smart boy! He'd perfectly line up his Hot Wheels too!
However, he always resisted doing anything physically daring (climbing stairs, or a ladder, going down slides and so on). Once when he was 3 he got "stuck" up in one of those playland climbing things at Chick-Fil-A. He was bawling and a teen girl pulled him out. Even now at age 7, he very carefully walks down stairs and really freaks (even cries) if I make him go down the escalator at Disneyland (a very high escalator).
He has always shaken his head back and forth (usually while riding in the car) and he now mostly flaps his hands back and forth and jumps up and down when exicted. He is easily excited by stimuli and will make loud sounds. He'll also make a loud sounds here and there in the middle of class for no reason.
In preschool I'd walk into his class and he'd be playing alone or looking at the ABC chart in the corner while the other kids played. We started him in Kindergarten when he was 4 yrs old. I know, we should have waited, but the kid was talking about countries and classical music!! HIs teacher would say he doesn't always do ask she asks. She said it wasn't really disobeying...she couldn't put her finger on it. In 1st grade the teacher mentioned the hand flapping. We thought maybe he was so smart, he was just quirky. His teachers also say he is VERY immature.
But after talking with his teacher I did a little research and re-read some info on Aspergers. I mentioned it to his Dr. (head of pediatrics)He immediately dismissed it and said all kids have some sort of quirly habit(he said most pick their noses).
He prefers to play with younger kids and this really bothers me. When I take him to a friend's house, he'll play with the 3/4 yr old sibing while the 7/8 yr old kid is left standing there.
We placed him in basketball, where they said he belonged with the younger age kids. Even then, he didn't excel and acted very young. He hated the entire experience. Gymnastics was a challenge as well.
The thing is, he's very, very intelligent. He makes witty, brilliant jokes that are on an adult level. He reads at a higher level too.
We always knew he was different, but we've pushed him to do many things so he'll blend and actually enjoy life. I don't know that he'll ever enjoy sports, but he does now ride his bike and scooter and is VERY good at it.
We don't want him to be labeled and worry about the school getting involved (not quite sure why). So, does this sounds like some form of Autism? Should we go to a Dr. or the school districy for testing? Where do we begin?
DH and I are loaded with guilt today. We remember taking him to the beach and him being terrified of waves...of screaming while learing to ride his bike and pushing him to do a million other things that must have terrified him. We always wanted him to "act like a big kid" and get over it.
He's the neatest boy and I just would do anything for him. What do I do now?
If you've gotten this far, thanks. :)