If our children are not our redemption, what is?

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If our children are not our redemption, what is?
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Thu, 09-15-2011 - 2:03am
Hi listmates, I wanted to share something that I wrote tonight. I keep a blog but was to shy to post this to the whole world...would rather share with fellow special needs moms who get it. Thanks for reading if you do. Hattie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 12:09pm

WOW.

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Registered: 11-22-2003
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 5:40am

Thank you for posting that! God knows what we need and will provide it, when the time is right to receive it. This post is another example of that, for me! As my grandma says, "God uses people." Thank you for having the courage to allow God to use you!

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Registered: 09-18-2009
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 11:32pm

Thanks Kristin. When I wrote this it was really in search of an answer for myself, what our redemption is. It helps me to think about it this way.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 12-31-2011 - 3:03am

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Registered: 11-22-2003
Tue, 01-03-2012 - 12:37am

I hope I'm not wasting my breath in saying this... I don't think that's what the OP meant by that post. First, it was a blog post, basically a journal post that the OP felt burdened to share, not necessarily written as an expose on the entire special needs culture. It is her personal feelings, not meant to broadly characterize all mothers of special needs children. Secondly, I *think* what she meant by the post (OP - please correct me if I'm wrong) is that we, as mothers of special needs children, don't often get the "bragging rights" that mothers of average or above-average performing children get. Not that we don't also derive joy and enrichment of our lives through our precious children, but that it's a different kind of joy and enrichment. Also pointing out there while there is a special kind of joy from our children, most special needs children also have special kinds of challenges and it can sometimes be especially challenging to bring up these children. Of course, especially challenging also means especially rewarding!

On a personal note, I was very tempted to flag your post as inappropriate. If you'd read all of the posts in this thread, you'd have noticed that the OP pointed out that this was a journal post and not meant as a broad statement speaking for all moms of special needs children. And your post was very rude - and it's posts like yours that make so many moms (and dads) hesitant to reach out and speak up, especially when things are challenging and the extra support is so needed, for fear of being judged and bashed the way you just did to the OP. I think this is one of those times where it would have been prudent to remind yourself "if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all." - especially since it sounds like you took it completely out of context.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 01-03-2012 - 5:54pm

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Registered: 04-15-2004
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 8:28pm

hattieo

you have touched upon a tender nerve.