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|Tue, 11-14-2006 - 9:51pm|
Hi, My name is Jennifer. I am mother to DS (7), DD (5.5) and DD (almost 2). I live alone with them. Work with my husband.
Have some questions. My son was diagnosed with ADHD last March and is on Adderal 10mg at 8am and 10mg at noon. (was on Adderal XR, Metadate CD)
He has had the "pooping" issue. (Resolved about 4 months ago!) He always liked to play alone, even at playgroups when he was younger. He has no real friends now, no playdates. He did join Cub Scouts this year...but the interest is starting to dwindle.
He is in second grade. He has an IEP through the school. Behavioral Plans and 1 hour a day with a tutor and 1/2 hour a week with the social worker. Preferential seating, modified work, and environment if needed for testing. We were seeing a psycholigist but stopped a few months ago. It was 1/2 hour once a week. He has diffictuly "coping". He was violent prior to the medications. Hitting kids or teachers. He hates everyone. Every thing he joined (ie. karate, soccer, baseball....he quit a bit into it) He has no real friends. Will not play with the group. If he doesn't want to do the work given by the teacher, he doesn't. If there on the carpet and he wants to go to his desk, he just gets up and does it. He gets "set off" sometimes by nothing. Crumbles his paper, throws his pencil, refuses to cooperate. He has no coping mechanisms. He is up every night late. Cannot figure out a routine for the morning or night. Constantly reminding him. He can't get the routine of school either, for example unpacking his lunch box & putting lunch tickets where they belong & handing in his homework & take home folder. He has no real mentors.
The school did a PPT in the spring. He scored very high on the IQ +130, but performance very low. He is in 2nd grade and on a beginning 1st grade reading level. He has no interest. The school is doing another PPT now.
The school has started looking into a "smiles program" It's an outsourced program of 2 teachers of 4 to 6 similar children at a different school in the middle of town. (his sister started kindergarden this year)Not sure if this will be good for him.
He has no interest in anything, literally. TV and if I take away that, it's OK. He likes to build things with his hands.
When he is at his dad's he runs around and acts like totally out of control, ie. bouncing off walls, literally.
I have been lurking on this board for a bit and he seems to fit in with your children and there personality/behaviors.
1. All the abbrevations, I can't figure them out...Is there somewhere I can go?
2. How do I get a proper diagnosis if he is actually not ADHD? What else could he be?
3. Any opinions about the smiles program?
4. How do I keep him interested in something so he can relish in the final goal.
5. He has NO self esteem, suggestions on boosting that?
6. How do I get him interested in school so he can actually learn. He has made no progress since the beginning of the year.
7. Is there something else he may have diagnosis wise that I don't know about, do they test medically (bloodwork) or with pen/paper?
8. Any discipline techniques that work?
I know this is alot and I can go on. You all sound wonderful and willing to help out. I really will appreciate any kind of advice given and will try everything. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope.
Thank you all so much in advance for anything!