New to ALL of this

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 2:05pm

Well, this is the first time I've ever even been on one of these boards, and my son was diagnosed 4 days ago....! It gave a name to the differences I knew he exhibited, but he's 11 years old and I got used to just calling him "immature". Part of me wouldn't change any of this because that's who he is and who I love, but wish he didn't have to experience the lack of friends. (He had 1, who is moving out of state, since he found out, he won't associate with him anymore). We live in N.O.,and I haven't found another soul on the internet that would be close by, so hoping ya'll can help me understand what we're in for. Can anyone tell me about teen years with this (Asperger's)? Does this have any connection to Depression? My husband's family has had a number of suicides in his family, and I worry about depression with this. Psychiatrist thought son acted more like a 6 or 7 year old, so what's wrong with letting him enjoy things as he wants? Can one Psyciatrist determine in one afternoon that this is the case. (We've been through so many psychologists, counselors, etc. Also, Pediatrician diagnosed ADHD)

As I said, very new to this, very confused, scared, protective, etc. What's next?

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 3:02pm

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 3:27pm
Hi, I am a lurker & occ. poster. My dd is 13 an Aspie & was diagnosed in 4th gr. School age diagnosis is very common. I am a nurse & could not figure out what was going on w/ her. Girls symptoms for the most part are a little milder than boys. She was acting different in pre-school I just thought she was a loner. Then the obsessions came along. We had her evaluated by 2 psychologists & her pediatrician to get a diagnosis for her IEP. Anyway re: suicide & schizophrenia. It also runs in my DH's family, his brother who died in his 20's. My DH has Aspie tendencies & so soes his father. My DH's father is smart w/ his Masters. He was a highschool science teacher but is very antisocial. I do think in our case my dd's AS was inherited. I wish there was testing that my older dd(17). could have to see if she carries a gene. There will be in the future I'm sure. Take care & good luck with your ds. There is alot of info on the internet check the OASIS website & alot of good books to read up on.~Mary Ann
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 3:58pm
I appreciate the info, and will say that luckily, the day after we received the diagnosis I happened to connect to OASIS website and LOVED their plain english information. I printed and my husband read when he got home and said the same thing. Thanks and I'm sure I'll be conversing alot over the rest of my lifetime!
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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 5:26pm

Hi,

Just learned from the dev ped last week that they have "finally" proven a link between a family history of depression and ASDs. Also, there is LOTS of overlap with ADHD. So none of DS's stuff is too out of the ordinary. Yes, a good psych can determine it in an afternoon. ASDs are a clinical dx., meaning there's no blood test or anything else, they just rely on their past experience with the disorders.

HTH.

Cathy

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Tue, 04-25-2006 - 7:53pm

Hi,

I just wanted to welcome you to the board. My son is 7 and was dx'd HFA when he was 5. He was and still is a bit immature for his age as well. There are lots of things to learn about autism, which I'm sure by now you figured out by now! I have depression myself, and I do worry about him becoming depressed as he gets older. I'm told that going thru puberty, middle school....can be challenging. We do have a few moms here who have kids that are older, so I'm sure you'll be able to find lots of support here.

michelle