New and worried

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Registered: 01-20-2006
New and worried
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 1:19pm

Hi. I'm Erin and I am the mother of 2, TTC again.

My concern is with my son, who just celebrated his first birthday on 1/10.

I have no idea if I should be worried. I may just be blowing things out of proportion. The doctor thinks he is fine. But, I am not so sure.

So, I have some questions, and hope that you wonderful mommies (and daddies!) can help me:

How young can a diagnosis be made?

If only some symptoms or red flags are exhibited, is it likely that there is not a problem, or perhaps this is just the beginning?

What resources are available, on the web, that you have found helpful?

I truely appreciate any help available. I am scared, worried and anxious to know what my next step should be.

Again, thank you!

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 4:27am
Although these behaviors certainly are suggestive of autistic behavior, the other possibility that springs to mind is deafness. Has your son had his hearing tested? It might be good to have a really thorough check-up done which includes a complete hearing check. It would also be good to have your little boy evaluated by a developmental pediatrician. I think one is not too early to check out the problems you are mentioning.
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Registered: 10-03-2004
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 2:20am

Sorry, I just realized you wrote back. Based on your descriptions, I would call Early Intervention with your school district, also look into specialists to have him evaluated. The temper tantrums while banging his head, the lack of pointing, lack of response to his name and eye contact are definitely reasons you should get him thoroughly checked out. While I can hardly dx over the internet and anyways, I am a mom not a doctor, those are red flags and one years old is NOT too early. I know several kids who were dx'ed at 1 and even younger. But don't let anyone (including your pediatrician, many have no real idea...) poo-poo you out of getting a thorough qualified evaluation or talk you into waiting. I would say those symptoms plus your feelings of worry (a mother's gut) are more than enough reasons to immediately go for it. Mostly I say this because you never ever want to wait and see with this possibility, because wasted time doesn't help.

And sometimes it can take you awhile to even get seen. Is there a Children's hospital near you? A pediatric neuropsychologist is best for dx'ing, although what you are really looking for is a solid background is diagnosing autistic spectrum disorders.

It could turn out that there is something else up, and maybe your child is not on the spectrum, but if so, getting early therapy is key. And finding out that nothing is wrong is not a waste of time ever, IMHO.

And by the by, if he is spectrum, he is not intentionally ignoring you, exactly. He has trouble focusing his other senses if he is distracted on another sense... Remember, if he is on the spectrum, there is lots of help available and our children can make wonderful progress and learn many things ... but will need the help to do it. My own son (age 8) is doing very well, super smart and funny ... but he has worked very hard and so have we and the not-so-small village helping to raise him!

Good luck, stay in touch and let us know how things are going for you. I remember when we were first worrying at age 2, how hard it was, but taking action as soon as possible is definitely the best thing to do.



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Registered: 01-20-2006
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 9:45pm

I know that it is probably too early to know and to dx.

The things my husband and I have noticed:

1. Lack of eye contact at early age, when most babies are very intrigued with faces.

2. Does not consistantly respond to name. Actually, we feel that he intentionally ignores us when we speak to him.

3. No attempt to communicate needs or wants other than crying and screaming. (i.e. no pointing, no reaching, no pulling at things to get to them)

4. While he does 'babble' quite frequently, he has not started to say ma-ma or da-da, even nondiscriminantly. According to out NP, he should be doing this by now. (I realize babies develop at different times, but this was indicated as an early warning sign at

5. He throws incredible temper tantrums. The include hitting his head on things such as the floor, doors, furniture, etc.

Anyway, those are my concerns. Otherwise, he is generally fairly happy. I should note that he was 11 lbs 3 oz at birth, was born via c-section at 38 wks., and had an abnormal heart beat for the first 3 months of his life. I don't know if any of this matters, but it may, and I want to give all the info I have.


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Registered: 10-03-2004
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 7:34pm

And yet I know several children whose symptoms were beginning to be obvious at one year old, in fact, more and more is being researched in the field now for earlier diagnosis and treatment. If you are not uncomfortable with talking about it, exactly what is worrying you? Of course, we are just parents here, none can dx over the internet anyways, and yet many pediatricians will not know enough about very early symptomology to be helpful. But maybe we can give you feedback as to what you are observing and whether or not you might start looking for diagnosticians who are more expert in working with any kind of autistic spectrum. After my own experience, and after hearing many, many other mom's stories, I would say that a mom's gut is never something to scoff at...



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Registered: 01-10-2005
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 3:23pm

I think one year-old is really, really early to diagnose anything. Try not to worry right now! Why are you concerned?

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