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Fri, 04-17-2009 - 12:10pm

Hello everyone. I'm Angie (29), married to Eugene (33), and we have two boys Tavion (9) and Jaiden (3). My oldest son, Tavion, was the best baby anyone could ever ask for. He slept all night from the time he was 4 weeks old, he hardly ever fussed. He preferred to go off and do his own things. I really don't remember him asking me or my husband to play with us. About the time he was 3-4 he started having tantrums and he's hit his head when he got mad. He was really hyperactive and in Kindergarden he was diagnosed with ADHD. He's always had problems controlling himself in school. The Adderral for his ADHD seems to help to an extent, but he can't control his outbursts or his moods. He doesn't really have any friends and his grades are suffering. He's always hit his developmental milestones and always had a huge vocabulary for his age and he is really smart. I began to wonder about special education for him to help with his test-taking, etc. because he is very easily distracted and loud noises bother him.

The school hired a psychologist to come in an evaluate him and we just got the report back and it is suggested that he is showing Aspergers-like symptoms. He is also depressive and anxious. I'm trying to get him in to a doctor to evaluate him for that but I'm just thrown for a loop. I never would have thought that anything is wrong.

I really don't know what to think or where to go. My husband is being anything but supportive and had me in tears over it last night. I'm the type of person that I investigate and research and approach problems head on. I know they could not definatively diagnose him but from what I've read, I believe it fits. But another part of me doesn't want to believe it. I look at my son and think that he is just fine but then I feel guilty. From what I've read, it's genetic and happens in utero so I feel like I did something wrong to cause this. I almost feel like I've ruined his life. Maybe I'm being irrational. I guess I just needed to "talk" to others who understand how I feel so I'm here. Thank you if you've read this far.








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Registered: 04-11-2009
Sun, 05-24-2009 - 11:44pm
Welcome to the board. Your son sounds just like my daughter. She is almost 13 and we have just finished going through a phcy assessment and get the results tomorrow, which everyone expects will be Asperger's. My daughter was also a perfect baby, sleeping through the night at 4 weeks, and always being completely content just playing on her own. Here is a post with more about her.... http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-pspddnos/?msg=12168.1
I found it helpful to read about what other family's were going through, and to read about the similarities of other kids. I have found this board extremely helpful and supportive.

Jodi....Mom to Leah (12 1/2) & Carter (10)


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Registered: 01-07-2008
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 8:17am

Welcome to the board. I suspect you may have a longish road ahead of you trying to get to the root of DS's issues, but you have come to the right place for support and parents who have definately BTDT. I know it can be a bit of a shock, but you are describing my DS to a 't', and we finally got a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome when he was 8. It was a relief to us to finally be able to understand him and support him more effectively. I hope you'll get some help and support and be able to understand your son better. You don't need a diagnosis to participate here, you are very welcome.


Kirsty, mum to Euan (10, Aspergers) Rohan (6, NT) and Maeve (3, NT)


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