New family with Aspergers

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Registered: 09-08-2005
New family with Aspergers
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Fri, 12-11-2009 - 4:55pm

Hi! How is everyone this wonderful holiday season? I am the proud mother of a very sweet 3-year-old boy with Aspersers. He currently attends a Special Education Preschool 4 days a week. He has all of the main characteristics from being hyperlexic, on his own he started identifying shapes, numbers and letters at 18 months and started reading at 24 months. I cannot tell you how shocked we were! He has sensory problems, he is hyposensative and living in Alaska, that really worries me. He speaks extremely well, but as you know it is not communicating, it is being a little professor, but he also has receptive language problems. His social skills have delays and he is delayed in his small motor, but actually he has average large motor skills.

I had suspected something was different since he was an infant, but was trying to deny it. I became angry at the doctor at his 18-month appointment when she suggested that we watch him for Autism. He had spent the session lying on the floor rolling his cars around and watching the wheels (spinning) and like I said was identifying shapes and numbers. She was very optimistic though because he did make eye contact and he would move away from me, but then would return for safety. But it was his third birthday when I really came to realize that this was not just being a toddler and that there were really issues.

My sister in law is a Special Ed Teacher of preschoolers and has always suspected that there was a very strong genetic link in their family and with James diagnosis, it seems that she is probably right. My husband, his father, 2 other uncles and his grandfather shows many signs, especially the rigid adherence to very strict and odd rules, which my son also shares in this characteristic. They are all involved in science and engineering too. I do not worry about my son’s future, the Fox men in their careers have done exceptionally well, but I hope that he will have friends, be a good husband and a wonderful father to his children. The Fox men have struggled in this area and I want more for my son.

I would love some guidance, everyday I feel the judgment by others on my parenting, they do not understand my struggles and without knowing my son, they do not know that he is just not able to understand their questions; it is not rudeness on his part. They think his rules are strange, I am not giving in to him, and I am just trying to ease his anxiety. There are so many days I feel lost and there is just no one here to talk to that understands what this is like.
Thank you

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 9:12pm

Welcome to the board.

                                

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 9:42pm

Welcome to the board!

You'll find many caring women here who understand what it's like to live with the spectrum in your life. We've been there done that and really 'get it'.

Not many people look this far down on the board, so please feel free to post on the above board which sees more traffic.

It's a great place to hang out where others understand. So share your feelings, worries, questions, and thoughts. We're here for you.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Registered: 12-22-2003
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 10:35pm
Welcome to our little safe haven! You'll find some of the most wonderful, caring, non-judgmental women in the world here.

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 4:14pm

Welcome!


You will slowly find out you have found a bit of heaven on this board because when no one else in the world gets it, you will find we do!


So nice to meet you and I hope you stick around :)


Lainie

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Registered: 01-13-2008
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 7:05am
it can get lonely out there, but dont let others persuade u, only u kno what is best for ur son!! i have to remind myself of that daily!!
My daughter is also hyperlexic shes 4 and reads at a 4th grade level, id love to take credit for that ;)ha
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