New family with Aspergers
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|Fri, 12-11-2009 - 4:55pm|
Hi! How is everyone this wonderful holiday season? I am the proud mother of a very sweet 3-year-old boy with Aspersers. He currently attends a Special Education Preschool 4 days a week. He has all of the main characteristics from being hyperlexic, on his own he started identifying shapes, numbers and letters at 18 months and started reading at 24 months. I cannot tell you how shocked we were! He has sensory problems, he is hyposensative and living in Alaska, that really worries me. He speaks extremely well, but as you know it is not communicating, it is being a little professor, but he also has receptive language problems. His social skills have delays and he is delayed in his small motor, but actually he has average large motor skills.
I had suspected something was different since he was an infant, but was trying to deny it. I became angry at the doctor at his 18-month appointment when she suggested that we watch him for Autism. He had spent the session lying on the floor rolling his cars around and watching the wheels (spinning) and like I said was identifying shapes and numbers. She was very optimistic though because he did make eye contact and he would move away from me, but then would return for safety. But it was his third birthday when I really came to realize that this was not just being a toddler and that there were really issues.
My sister in law is a Special Ed Teacher of preschoolers and has always suspected that there was a very strong genetic link in their family and with James diagnosis, it seems that she is probably right. My husband, his father, 2 other uncles and his grandfather shows many signs, especially the rigid adherence to very strict and odd rules, which my son also shares in this characteristic. They are all involved in science and engineering too. I do not worry about my son’s future, the Fox men in their careers have done exceptionally well, but I hope that he will have friends, be a good husband and a wonderful father to his children. The Fox men have struggled in this area and I want more for my son.
I would love some guidance, everyday I feel the judgment by others on my parenting, they do not understand my struggles and without knowing my son, they do not know that he is just not able to understand their questions; it is not rudeness on his part. They think his rules are strange, I am not giving in to him, and I am just trying to ease his anxiety. There are so many days I feel lost and there is just no one here to talk to that understands what this is like.