Just got a diagnosis of High Functioning Autism and ADD
Don't be scared. Your're not alone. I totally understand what you say about grieving the child you "lost" (but actually never had). I went through that too, and I think a lot of others did too. The first few weeks and months after a diagnosis ae particularly tough. It is a huge adjustment and learning curve. Here are a few things which helped me:
Know your child hasn't changed. The only change is in your knowledge of your child, and you can use that knowledge to help her.
Stop comparign her to other children her age. Instead compare her to herself, weeks or months ago. Then you will see progress and development and rejoice in those.
Arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible. Knowledge is power.
The biggest help: This board and others like it. Here are people who truly *get* it and are always loving ans supportive.
I knew for a while that both my kids were on the spectrum too but it still hit me like a shot in the stomach. I think that even though I knew they fit the criteria I was hoping the doctors would tell me I was crazy. That they were a normal ___ year old and would grow out of the stuff I was seeing. It is really hard getting that final confirmation, lol.
I began to call the times before diagnosis as my time of "happy denial" even if I had an inclining. Even if they were already in special education, I didn't have to accept and deal with a full diagnosis then.
It gets much better over time. Now like Pam said, I just accept it as part of thier personality. They are still the same kids, just a little quirkier than your average bear and I have to parent a bit differently and know more about the education system, LOL.
Welcome to the board.
Thanks Renee & Michelle for the welcome.
I've also suspected some sort of ASD for my DD for a while now, but somehow having it confirmed has been harder than I thought it would be!
Hi, and welcome to the board. I remember those feelings too. My son, Nathan was dx'd HFA when he was 5, he's 6 1/2 now. I expected the dx, but it was still difficult to hear. It has been quite a challenge for me this last year. So don't worry about having mixed feelings, it definitely is a rollercoaster ride. Feel free to vent or ask any questions you may have! That's what we're here for!
Welcome to the board. You aren't alone. It is hard at first. In fact I had expected the ASD diagnosis for both my kids when they were diagnosed and it still was like a big punch in the stomach. Having been at it a few years now I am much better at it, lol. I have met a ton of wonderful friends, other moms and have some of the worlds neatest kids.