New Here, son possibly has asperger's
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|Sun, 10-12-2008 - 12:05pm|
Hi, I'm new to the board, found it after re-searching for info on asperger's syndrome. We started family counseling about a month ago to help our 13 yr old son fit in better in our family and society. We started noticing a difference when he was 11 but decided he was upset about moving to a new state, and the kids in the neighborhood who didn't get along with him were at fault. He always had friends prior to that, excelled in school and had a gift for writing and artwork. He was enrolled in the gifted program so we just assumed that his thinking was beyond the average kid and it was because of being gifted. About 6 months ago, he started exhibiting some seriously strange behavior and that prompted me to seek out some counseling. I didn't want to single him out, so we went as a family. Two sessions ago, the counselor suggested to dh and I that she was leaning towards a diagnosis of asperger's for our son. She asked us to go home, research it a little and let her know if we saw any similarities with our son. Maybe I was in denial, but the first time I looked it up, I thought she was crazy and just wanted to label our son so her work was done. Last week, at our session, she told us again that she really felt like he was on the higher functioning spectrum of asperger's and asked us more questions about his history. Suddenly we started recalling things that matched....simple things like him covering his ears at the movie theatre and crying and begging not to go to the fireworks show because it was too loud. How even when he had friends, they all seemed to migrate towards his brother who just wanted to play without elaborate rules and frustrations, how he doesn't have one single friend right now but desperately wants one. How he's obsessed with art, computer and writing. How he's just different from our other son and all the friends that he brings home. My husband is taking it very well and tends to look at the positive side of the differences. I however am feeling sad, embarassed and every other selfish emotion I can think of. Dh tells me I'm over-reacting and everything will be just fine. At least with a diagnosis, we can learn how to react to and help our son. I haven't told a single soul, not even other family. I just need to talk to others who can relate first I guess. Sorry this is so long.