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|Fri, 05-20-2005 - 9:14am|
I posted a question about a week ago, and got several wonderful responses. Thank you to all who took the time to offer their experiences, advice, and expertise.
Today, I want to introduce myself and my family, and hopefully become a little more active on the board. My name is Shelli, I am from SC, and I am the 35 year old mother of four children. My wonderful husband is Charlie, and he is 34. I have a child from a previous marriage, Mason, who is 17. Charlie and I have three young children together: Chay age 5 1/2, Colby age 3 1/2, and Olivia age 1 1/2. All of my children are wonderful, and I've been blessed by God in so many areas of my life that I sometimes am in awe, wondering what I did to deserve all that he's given me.
Iis my Chay that has AS. We've never been officially diagnosed, but I know that he does, indeed, have the syndrome. I've known since he was born that something was different, but it took a lot of research and time to figure out exactly what it was. Although his PD agrees with me on my diagnosis, and has referred me to a specialist for an official diagnosis, I've opted not to go that route. Chay has AS, yes, but I see improvements in him, and really, unless I told an observer what was wrong, they would just think he "marches to the beat of his own drum."
A little about Chay:
When he was two days old, and we walked in the front door upon returning from delivery, Chay was getting ready to start screaming again (he had colic from day one, and it was all day/all night stuff!), then in mid-meltdown, he spied the shiny god ceiling fan above him, spinning very slowly. I know that newborns can't see well, but he saw something. We stood there for 15 minutes staring at the fan... then he remembered what he was about to do!
He was walking at 8 months, talking at a year, talking in short sentences at 18 months. At which time he knew all of his colors and numbers and shapes. I kid you not. He's always been an over-achiever. He still is. You wouldn't believe how much this kid knows (or maybe you would!).
His obsession has always been vacuums. I have so many pictures of him vacuuming from the time he was beginning to walk. I would be vacuuming the house, and he'd come beside me and pretend one of his push-toys was a vacuum. I immediately went out and bought him a little play one. That worked for a while, but he eventually came to own his own vacuum. He vacuums every day if I let him. He loves visiting people and being able to "check out their vacuums". It is so sweet. He also loves anything mechanical, such as disposals, fans, and his toys that can be taken apart. Those toys cause a big problem in my house, because it drives me crazy to see all his toys taken apart all the time!!
He hates candy of any kind, and anything chocolate. Even the smell drives him insane. If I've been eating it and get too close, he'll wrinkle his face and say, "Have you been eating chocolate?" It is so funny. He does TRY to like candy, every single Halloween. He'll try everthing, and pretend to like it and then put it down. Poor kid. Lately, he is hating textures. Like all of a sudden, he hates grapes because he doesn't like the skin. All of a sudden, he hates popcorn because it gets stuck in his teeth.
Gosh, I could go on and on for hours. I wish I could. I love talking about Chay. Although AS can be such a hard thing to deal with at times, I also feel as if it is almost a blessing in disguise. I really think that Chay will be whatever he wants to be when he becomes a man. He has always been so determined. I foresee him being a FABULOUS mechanical engineer someday, probably working for Kirby or Dirt Devil!
If you've read this long introduction, THANKS! I hope that I'll 'see' all of you soon!