Signs? Please help!

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Registered: 07-29-2005
Signs? Please help!
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:23pm
I was wondering if any of you noticed signs of PDD in your child as an infant. I am wanting to know some of the signs you all noticed, if any. And maybe you could help me out. My son just turned four months old and I am concerned. He does make eye contact with people (except when he is standing up in your lap.) When standing in lap, he looks around and if you say his name, he will look at you for a split second and then go back to looking around. When I talk to him, he looks at me and coos back. He is meeting his milestones, except he doesn't always respond to his name, but most of the time he does. I know it is verly early to tell and his ped said that as of last checkup he showed no signs of autism or any PDD, but I feel like he is wrong. Any advice? I am worrying myself sick! Thanks so much!
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:48pm

Tis is a tough one for me, My sone was ne of those who generally met his milestones, hen there wa a big rgresion around 19 or 20 months.

However, thre were some signs of sensory issues from the very beginning. The big one I remember: He NEEDED movement -you had to walk *fast*, jiggle *fast*, move, move, move, move when you were holding him. Otherwise he would scream.

He hated to be uncovered. He liked swaddling. -but I think most small babies do.

My dd was a model baby. She didn't show any signs of a (very mild) PDD until she was about 21mos old.

I don't know if this information helps or makes matters worse! I'm sorry.

I do need to ask: why is this issue specifically such a concern for you? IS PDD prevalent on either side of the family? If it is not, I would encourag you to worry less (keep a weather eye out, but dont; obsess), until there are concrete reasons to, and enjoy your baby more. You have heard this a milion times; but those baby months really do go by all too fast.



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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 10:09pm


My son is 6 now, and looking back to his infant years....I now see the signs. He seemed very much in his own world. But then he was also real fussy too. He had kind of a glassy look in his eyes, as if he was looking right thru me. He had eye contact with me, dh, and his brother though.

You also said that your son will coo back to you....that's great! My son didn't really do that. He would also have these crying episodes, as if something frightened him....but we always weren't sure what frightened him. Sometimes it would be something minor, but to him it was terrifying. Loud or sudden noises were just terrifying to him.

Sensory issues were another thing too. He didn't like to be bundled up, and didn't really care if I was holding him or not (at least it seemed that way!). He had problems with food too. There were lots of the baby foods that would make him vomit. His brother didn't like a couple of things....but that was it. Nathan seemed more of a drinker too. Loved liquids.

My son met all of his milestones too, except talking. He was a late talker. For the longest time I thought that he was just stubborn, or picky, or had a different personality. We don't have anyone in our family that is on the spectrum, so it never occurred to us to look into it. I was wondering the same thing as Paula you have someone in your family who is on the spectrum? Or some other reason for your concern? It is difficult to tell for sure, especially since he is so young. But I would keep a watch if it is really a concern for you. The "signs" that you wrote about, don't raise any red flags for me though. Feel free to ask anymore questions that you may have.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:45am

hi pretty girl :)

i have a 3 year old with autism and a 2 year old with pdd. my 3 yr old was a fussy baby. i remember reading dr. sears high needs child. he didn't sleep well. it was a huge circus act of bouncing, dancing, swaddling, rocking to get him down and if you didn't do it just right, he'd wake the minute you'd walk away. he never napped. he was my first and i thought i was a rotten mother.

then baby #2 was pretty easy in comparison.

if i was to have baby #3, which i'm not, i would do the following...

1 read the out of sync child for info about sensory stuff. if i had known that, i could have helped matt a whole lot more.

2 spread out vaccines and never allow more then one in any visit. no flu shots. i would use a hypoallergenic baby formula to allow the GI tract more time to develop. soy and milk products can cause gut problems. if you breastfeed, be vigilent about what you take in as well.

3 enjoy your baby, i agree with that one. try not to worry too much. but the above stuff won't hurt any child and might give you peace of mind that you are doing everything you can to prevent what you can.

tc, valerie

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:43am

HI Laura, Boy do I ever understand what you are going through. But it sounds to me like your son is perfect. I have an 11 month son who I am 90% sure is going to be autistic. He did not make eye contact when he was a baby and still does not. He did not coo in response to my coos. Now at 11 months I see that he does not have an interest in faces, loves to play with the buttons on the remote or any type of cord he can find. And his communication skills are lacking. I have been in and out of testing since he was 6 months. Problem with me is I am a special ed teacher and have too much knowledge. I am havin quite a hard time dealing with all this. But I just wanted to let you know that you baby sounds like he is perfect. Try not to worry so much. I had to go on antidepressants when Jacob was 4 months because I did not want to take care of him. My MIL kept him for me during the day until I went back to work. It is very hard not to worry, but like I said, your baby sounds perfect. Feel free to email me with any questions

Best of luck

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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:53am

Hi laura,

It is really hard not to worry. Particularly in this day of so much information and emphasis on early intervention. However, he does sound pretty grand so far. I am curious. If you do something like make rasperies, will he do it back? Just curious from something I heard somewhere.

I have 2 Aspies as well and they were completely different.

My daughter was very fussy, never slept, tough time eating, always needed to be held and moved. Her milestones were a bit late. I didn't have a video recorder that early so I don't remember cooing, but she barely spoke to me in video's at 1-2. Initiated to have needs met and mostly it was me trying and trying to interact with her, so I highly doubt she cooed with me as an infant.

My son was the opposite. He was a very easy. The only main thing was that he had to be swaddled very tight and didn't like to be held. From a newborn he would scream until you put him down and then he would sleep. He slept alot and through the night at 1 month. I think it was to get away from being held. I honestly don't remember about cooing either. Since he was easy, slept well, and met his milestones ontime we always said he was a perfect baby and didn't have any of the trouble of his sister. So we only noticed the positives and none of the signs for a very long time. I do remember his being obsessed with doors at 10 months. But other than that all that stands out is not being held.


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Fri, 09-09-2005 - 9:03pm


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Sat, 09-17-2005 - 12:20pm

Hi Laura! Great to meet you!
Josh doesn't yet have a medical diagnosis, but yes, as an infant we did see some signs. He had vestibular issues and needed constant movement (similar to what was mentioned in someone else's post), he had/has this thing he does to get to sleep which includes violent swinging of his head while banging one leg on the matress (started this at about 2 mos). Hated car rides (would scream the whole way), didn't like to be held, and would arch his back if you were holding him, was WAY more interested in lights and ceiling fans than anything else going on around him, we couldn't take him anywhere noisy (restaraunt, store that played music etc.), but he did coo and laugh when we played with him. As he approached the year mark he was obsessed with numbers and letters (shapes too). We went through a few months that he wanted a circle...only wanted to play with a circle...same for letters and numbers. Everyone has givin great input and advice in my opinion!! My thought is to strongly express your concerns at every ped. visit. I wish I had done that. Josh had gross motor delays that were sluffed off by the ped. until he was way behind. Then after we got through with PT, although he still had issues, we were kinda left to wait it out because he didn't fit the delay percentage in any other area to qualify for early intervention. Now we are in kindergarten, and are re-hashing the whole thing all over again. Had I pushed the issue, we may have been able to help him through therapy sooner. I wish you well, and hope that all is fine! There is no harm though in advocating for your child early and finding that either all is well, and get you some peace of mind, or that there may be issues, and you can start even earlier in finding help and therapy. Hugs to you, I know that the concerned, not knowing, but wanting to know one way or ther other phase is really tough. Hang in there.