Hi JJ and welcome.
I'm sorry it took me so long to find your post.
PDD-NOS is one of the difficult ones, because the kids vary so wildly. You never know which traits are "PDD" and which are "NOS".
I am confused right there with you. My dd is 8 and we just recieved her dx a couple of months ago.
- Christina mom to-
Chloe (10) Aiden(8)
Welcome JJ. :) I have a 10 year old daughter that was just diagnosed with Asperger's a year and a half ago.
Thinking about your question of what is related to the disorder and what is "normal", I don't spend much time thinking about it. I think that's because up until the diagnosis, I always figured those behaviors and quirks were just normal for Haley but when we finally did get the diagnosis, it was like, "Ooooh! So that's why she is like that."
When we first talked about Asperger's with our child psychiatrist, we were told to go home and look up every site we could find about it and read as much as we could. I must have gone through a zillion sites and bought a library of books that day. Some were helpful, some not so much. But just by browsing sites and reading, I was able to get a much clearer picture of what made Haley tick. It's interesting isn't it? You know your child but as soon as you get a diagnosis like this, you almost feel like you have to get to know them all over again. Or at least it kind of felt that way to me.
Hang in there. You're definitely not alone. This is a great place for support too!
You are in the right place!