Son's fears of being alone in life

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Son's fears of being alone in life
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:07pm

Hello everyone, I am new here and glad to have found this forum. I'll appreciate any ideas to help me with my son's issues. He is almost 15 and has PDD NOS. As a toddler, he only sang rhymes and repeated sentences (whole plays often) but the functional language developed very slowly. Now he is verbal and able to communicate, but his vocabulaory is still limited. He has serious challanges in recalling the right words and structuring the sentence right. He will start the sentence one way and pause and re-phrase it, and his processing is slow too. His thinking, as well as the language is very concrete and his interests are limited too. Due to all that, he has so far not been able to make one single friend. I tried to help him find friends as much as I could when he was younger, but gave up as he did nt seem to be in need of friends (atleast said that). During the last few years, he has started realising that he is different. He will be a freshman this Fall. Other kids in school laugh and joke together and it hurts him a lot that he cannot follow what they are talking about. Everything has to be really broken down, and said completely for him to understand. He has always been a happy child and has a heart of gold. But last year was so hard because he got extremely anxious and we are seeing a psychiatrist too. He worries about how he will live by himself, and keeps asking me if I will always be there to help him. This is driving me into depression. I don't know how to open him up and relax him so he can make atleast one good friend. Our social life is non existant because of some other issues and partly because he feels uncomfortable (he wants to socialise but kind of freezes with people). He only talks to teachers in school. He has an IEP and really works hard but still struggles in every subject other than Math because of the language issue.Any ideas on how to help him ? I will really appreciate your help !! God bless you

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Fri, 08-03-2012 - 4:16pm
We don't really have forums by location, although we do have a great Surviving Middle & High School forum: http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Surviving-Middle-High-School/ct-p/iv-ppmiddlehigh

I'm on the west coast :smileyhappy:

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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 5:19pm
Hi hanna-k, welcome to the board! My heart goes out to the both of you, it's so hard to see your child not fitting in :smileysad: My son is awkward as well in social situations, but I'm hoping that next year in high school (he'll be a freshmen as well), that he'll be able to find his niche. There are so many groups and activities that they can join, there are a lot more opportunities for your son to meet people in a less stressful environment. Maybe you could talk to a school counselor about different groups that would be a good fit for him? Another thing you could try would be to do role playing with him on how to handle different social situations. I really hope that he can make a good friend this year, please let us know how he does.