Thanks for the testing advice!

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Thanks for the testing advice!
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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 3:33pm
Thanks everyone for your testing advice! This is such a new world to us, we are so used to dealing with medical stuff. Insurance will cover the testing (20 visits/year) but come to find out, the school psychologist is trained to do the testing. We meet with the school system in 2 days and feel like we are either going in there to voice our demands or will just be defending our son. Everything they do takes sooo long and they just keeping changing their minds about strategies--yet they want us running to neurologists and psychologists. I did speak with a "parent advocate" of the early childhood office (of course she can't make the meeting) but she told me what to say, how to say it, what to ask for and what we wanted. Our other issue is whether to send Ryan to Kindergarten next year--he will be age-eligible by 14 days but we don't think he is ready at all, they do. And if we send him, most likely he will have to repeat K anyway. So is another year of preschool (with the same teacher)better or worse than 2 years of K? In K, Ryan would be with the regular class in the AM and be pulled out to the special ed class for the PM. We are so confused and frustrated...and Ryan is too, he comes home from school like a mad man, it takes me 30 minutes to calm him down. I hope we can work something out with this "team" of people that are driving us crazy--I wish I could homeschool but I don't trust myself to do that either. Thanks for listening.



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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 5:44pm
You're right about there being situations when there's a bad teacher/student match. My son's K teacher was a bad match...and an even WORSE mother/teacher match! (She was an older teacher who hadn't bothered to learn squat about ASD, etc.)

Good luck in whatever you and your hubby decide. But there is support out there...you just gotta find it!

Amy

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Wed, 02-25-2004 - 3:13pm
Thanks Amy. My gut has always told me not to send him to Kindergarten and that was just based on his age and cut off date--before we even knew he had so many issues. I am just so concerned of another year with this teacher, I was a teacher for 6 years, sometimes there is just a bad teacher/student match. I am nervous about this meeting and can't imagine how we will come away feeling. Thanks for the advice--I forwarded your email to my husband so he can see the support out there and that we aren't alone in all these decisions!

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Tue, 02-24-2004 - 7:55pm
Well, I have some experience with regards to sending him to K, or going with another year of preschool. We wanted desperately to keep Noah out of K, but he would've had to go from a full day pre-K program, to a half day spec. ed. program, which didn't make sense to us. So...we went ahead and sent him to K, which was exceptionally difficult for him. At the time, we had a ppd-nos Dx, that really had no impact on the way the school district handled his situation. (The only service he received was speech.) We were very naive, and in retrospect, would've handled the situation much differently.

When it came time to make the decision of whether to repeat K, or send him on, the school said, "Academically he's ready, but he's very immature. We suggest you hold him back." I was furious! What they called immaturity was his Dx! As it happened, we moved a month into the school year, so we pulled him out of his second year of K, and he is now "taking the rest of the year off" because he was BORED STIFF! Aspie kids tend to be very bright (as you noted in your post) and Noah wasn't being challenged in the least. In fact, when they were covering material that he was already proficient at, they would stick him in a corner with a book. Not the best environment for an aspie.

So...I guess my advice is, try not to make any decisions until you get all the information. (Which, in my opinion would include a medical Dx.) I also think that emotionally, your son would probably be better served with another year of preschool, as opposed to potentially repeating K. (Noah really missed his classmates that went on to 1st grade, which made him even less equipped to deal with repeating K.)

Also, you need to keep in mind that school districts can (and some do) have ulterior motives when it comes to moving kids from preschool to K. Be it funding issues, administrative goals, whatever...holding kids back rarely helps the school district.

Only you can decide what's best for your son, but please go with your gut instinct. If you think he's not ready, DON'T SEND HIM. In the long run, starting K a year later probably won't have a negative impact on your son...but repeating K, could.

This is just my two cents, so take it for what you want...but speaking as a mom who's been there, I wanted to share my experiences/thoughts with you.

Amy

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