"All Used Up"

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Registered: 08-04-2001
"All Used Up"
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Sat, 04-30-2011 - 9:56am

"I am all used up." is what a friend said. Her child is now an adult and she'd been dealing with his severe mental (brain) issues since pre-school. The kid's father is beyond "all used up." We all have advice to give, like "Take care of yourself."

The parents I know personally with children like mine were are incredible in their commitment to both the kids and to the community at large. They are fighting a battle larger than themselves. Some take solace and get renewed energy by being involved, taking on leadership roles, or just working on the sidelines. Look at all the women with breast cancer and their families who walk to raise money. It's like that but more - parents of kids with autism, with schizophrenia, with bipolar... doing so much!


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Mon, 05-02-2011 - 4:13pm
Although I know that my struggles as a mom do not compare to what some of you go through, I can relate a little. There are days that dealing with my ADHD (along with some other issues) son just wears me out, and while I continually hope that next semester, next year, etc. will be better, it never meets my expectations. It's stress that never really goes away, and I can see how it can effect your own health.

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Wed, 05-04-2011 - 7:57am

Although I know that my struggles as a mom do not compare to what some of you go through, I can relate a little. There are days that dealing with my ADHD (along with some other issues) son just wears me out, and while I continually hope that next semester, next year, etc. will be better, it never meets my expectations.

There is a saying about don't judge others' pain as less than your own, and I am always saying that isn't the problem I see with most people. Most people judge their pain as less than others. I say instead, Don't judge your pain as less than others.

Melissa! YOUR struggles don't need to be compared. They are YOUR struggles. They are real, and they ARE, as you say, wearing.


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